What to do?

Question

me and my girlfriend are 15 and she is pregnant. I am going to stay with her. We cant decide on what to do with the baby. ABORTION IS NOT AN OPTION! It is either keep it or adoption. IF we keep it we will have some finanical problems but hopefully our familys can help a little. Another problem is I wont be able to see it because we live in 2 different towns about 15 miles apart. She will also have to quit school. A problem with adoption is that it really is not right and it will be hard to do. HELP

Answer 1

Why isn't adoption right? It will be hard to do, but it may be the best thing for the baby. Having two financially, emotionally stable parents is the best situation for a child to thrive in. I got pregnant at 16 and kept my daughter, but it was a long hard road. If you have ALOT of family support you can make it work, but if not, you should really consider adoption. I know it's hard.

Answer 2

I suspect neither of you have spoken to your parents yet, since you don't know for sure if they'll be able to help you. You need to talk to them ASAP. If your girlfriend quits school at 15, she will have more than "some financial problems." It will be difficult for her to ever support herself, much less someone else. How is it fair to expect your families (mostly hers, since they'll live with them) to shoulder this burden?

I don't understand what you mean by adoption not being '"right." Adoption is a wonderful gift, the creation of a family. There are multiple adoption agencies that can assist you both, and they're easy to find on the web, in the phone book, or through any church. You and your girlfriend can choose the parents you want for your child. Adoptions are open these days, so you won't lose contact. Agencies also provide counseling to help you through this, even if you decide not to place the child for adoption.

Please consider all the things you want to do with your life, and the life you would wish for your child. Most importantly, think of your girlfriend, who will be deprived of an education and future opportunities while being the sole responsible parent, since you can't be there.

Answer 3

Wow.....ummmm......okay. This is a tough one. I understand abortion is not an option, I don't believe in it either. If you decide to keep the baby and tough it out together, you will have many problems. Are you sure your families are going to want to help? If not, you guys have to figure that all out. I think her parents can actually press charges, if they wanted to.....not sure of the situation though. If you guys choose adoption, you have to know that some agencies make it the easiest decision you will ever make. I went through an agency here, and they were wonderful. I got to pick the parents, I got to meet the parents, they came to a doctor's appointment, and I chose them to raise my daughter. I had some problems that I had to deal with and I couldn't have done that while raising a baby. We still have contact and she's doing amazing. Whatever your decision is, let it be what is best for the baby, your girlfriend and you. Good luck.

Answer 4

I would say adoption!Yes It'll be hard but If she has an open adoption, she'll get to see the child and be apart of it's life.My parents adopted me that way and are trying to adopt again.

Answer 5

Okay first of all she does not have to quit school.Thats the worst thing she could ever do.You can function just like everyone else.Although uncomfortable at times pregnancy can be dealt with at school.Its not that bad.PLEASE whatever you guys decide to do Adoption,keeping the baby,Please you guys dont quit school.

Answer 6

well if abortion isnt an option, I would personally give the baby up for adoption.

Answer 7

I am sure your families know that she is pregnant, I would suggest having a family meeting with both families and figure out what is right for all 3 of you.

Answer 8

i think that adoption would be the best thing to do. it is a hard thing to do my sister had to do the same thing but i also think that what ever you guys feel like doing would still be fine

GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

PLEASE consider adoption !! There are SOOOO many infertile couples who dream of having a child ! Please make someones dream come true and consider adoption.