Is Ugliness defined as me?

Question

OK, so ppl say dont listen 2 other ppl and juss kno u are beautiful for myself, but it is juss so hard 2 take it! Now picture yourself at school and you had a great personality everyone thought so, but you were "UGLY" every conversation with a group of ppl when talkin about relationships you alwayz are excluded! as oh she is ugly dont even put her in this convo. Friends and i mean like bestfriends from lik kindergarten hav made comments and i dont know if they r just going along with the crowd in what they r saying or are they just being extremely rude? I get tons of hurtful comments every single day and i try 2 ignore it but it is impossible day after day 2 ignore it, i go home every night trying not to cry! so basically my question is How do u deal with being ugly?

Answer 1

best way is change your looks.

Answer 2

What do you think they think is ugly about your appearance? Is there anything you can do to alter your appearance? I'll give you an example: Normally Matt Damien is really cute, right? Well, I saw him on Saturday Night Live or a talk show or something & he looked really scruffy. He had a yucky stubbly beard thing going on & his hair was longer/shaggy. If I had never seen him before when he looked good in movies, I woulda just thought "Matt Damien is ugly." And coulda assumed he's always been. Wrong hairstyles can do it, or maybe some beauty enhancing tips with makeup (eyebrows, etc) can help. Oprah Winfrey is someone who doesn't look attractive at all w/o her hair & makeup done. But she is attractive w/it. Sounds like you are around some insensitive, shallow people. I am very sorry about that. Just make sure you let someone know if it starts to take a bad toll on your emotional well-being and starts effecting your productivity at school. If you have a councelor at school, possibly talk to them for confidential advice. Best Wishes to you, Sweetie.

P.S. Thank you, Tiffany, for bringing up this question that others may have been afraid to ask & would like advice about. :) {hugs}

Answer 3

I think you need to find some new friends. Good friends would never put you down for the sake of going along with the crowd. Find some friends that will support you and boost your confidence by being there for you and standing up for you.

Also, I really doubt you're ugly. People who put others down are just looking for ways to feel better about themselves and to feel 'included'. Ugliness is dependent on how you act, not how you look.

It definitely IS hard to be able to be confident in yourself without the help of others but the older you get, the more you'll be able to have self-confidence and self-esteem. Everyone goes through the phase where they're not happy with themselves but if you find friends that truly appreciate you, it can help you to be more confident in yourself and get through the rough times. :)

Answer 4

That is just horrible that people who say they are your friends would treat you like that. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I'm sure you are beautiful and the fact that these people would be so cold-hearted to call you ugly every single day makes them disgusting. They need to get a clue! I wish I could meet these people just so I could tell them how ugly they are! You just stay strong and make new friends who love you for you.

Answer 5

Sweety your not dealing with being ugly your dealing with what other people think of you. I know you dont really want to hear this again and again and again but looks are only skin deep.If you always pay attention to what other peole think of you than you will never know what you TRULY think of yourself.

Dealing with your best best friends from kindergarten should NOT even be called your best friends. They are making INSULTS not comments. What best friend does that to somebody ? Thats not what you call a "best friend" thats what you call a snobby *****.

Have you ever took time out to think maybe you have something on you that they dont have and they could be jelouse ? It could be your personality that they cant stand so much cause when you put your personality out there like you do it over rules your looks. Maybe its the way your hair is done every morning or maybe its the color of your eyes that they could possibly be jelouse of.

Instead of ignoring something like this maybe you need to stand up for yourself. When they decide to make such insults like this, just use good come backs on them. such as

" what makes you better than me ?"

" I have heard enough from daddys little girl."

"go look in the mirror and get fed up."

" is that your face or did your pants fall down ?"

See sweety they have took your pride away from you and they have even made you think that you were ugly. 1st of all you need self confidence
2nd you need to tell yourself that you are beautiful and not ugly
3rd and most important dont be afraid to tell them to go f@#$ themselves, or even point out on them what you dont like and what you think is not acceptable, either it being there weight to the way there nose is to the color of there eyes to even there hair line or if they wear to much make up cause there could be something on them that you dont even like to look at and they may not like to look at that either. I sure hope this helps you and you shouldnt be afraid to let yourself know that you are beautiful cause it helps. Good Luck dont let your friends insult you anymore.

Answer 6

Trust me, you are definitely *NOT* ugly!! What matters MOST is what -you- think of you. What other people think or say about you _Does Not_ matter.

The fact is beauty is in the heart. You just stay as sweet as you seem, and just let people's mean words bounce OFF of you while you still =Smile= and that will prove to everyone else who's the most beautiful person. That's how you beat -them- at their own game! :)))

Answer 7

no matter what you look like you have to be comfortable being you , there are other things that make up for features, some weoman are drop dead beautyful but the personality is ugly so basically if your not happy with who you are how can anyone see your other beauty

Answer 8

Their is only one person that should truly care for you, love you,appreciate you and that person is you. You have family which is really important. Later on friends aren't gonna be as important as they seem now. don't be vulnerable, be strong. feel beautiful and thats all you need.

Answer 9

for each of our senses of perception, there is diverse attractiveness, wherein that's appealing, looks stable, tasty, smells stable and interesting..experience comfortable etc. there is not something like ugliness......it relatively is basically previous the variety of attractiveness.....

Answer 10

it all depends on ur age. if ur lil tell ur parents. youu mite wanna consider changing skools or jst learn to ignore