Why women decide to leave a man who has been good to them?

Question

My wife says she doesn't want to be married anymore and that she is tired of doing everything for everyone else. She is pre menapausal and continues to do for others without regard for herself. I'm not confused, I just would like a good answer as to why women do this sort of thing?

Answer 1

Midlife crisis and/or selfish. What a lame excuse on her part. I watched 2 women leave awesome husbands this past summer. I'm sooo sorry she is doing this to you (((hugs)))

Answer 2

Your idea of how "men" handle this situation is based on YOUR opinion only. There are plenty of men who behave in the same exact manner you've described. Maybe that's what YOUR reaction would be, but you can't speak for all the men. Women, just like men react this way for the obvious reason. They are hurt and devistated over the fact that someone else has taken their place and will reap all the benefits of the love they thought they had with the person they were with. Me "speaking as a woman", if this happened to me I would just accept it as it was never love to begin with and let the guy go. Then I would "suck it up, put on some nice clothes and look for a better one".

Answer 3

Well, frankly, women don't typically decide to leave a man who has been good to them! They do, sometimes, however, decide to leave a man whose definition of "being good to them" doesn't match theirs. Sometimes, it seems, a man's definition amounts to bringing home a paycheck and includes nothing more. Is this the case with you? It sounds like it might be if she says she's tired of doing everything all the time. If you are interested in saving your marriage, you might ask her about this, and listen to her response before deciding how "good" you have been.

Answer 4

Sounds like me!! I have been married since I was 16,I was madly in love,I was happy,I gave up my teenage yrs.but I loved being his wife.Now I don't want to be married anymore either.Perhaps your wife feels like she missed out,is bored with being married,or lost the feeling she once had.Doesn't mean she doesn't love you,just "not in love" That's where I am with my marriage,an it came out whe I started menopause.Just hang in there,I know it's very frustrating for you.My Husband still talks about how mean I was to him{hormones)an it was hard for me to accept,I was only 40,an I felt cheated,so I took it out on him an then I started resenting him because he did what he wanted,an I was always home w/kids,so whatever your situation is try an let her know that after she passes this,then if she still feels the same then you have a sit-down,no arguing and try counseling,if you both want to save the marriage,she also needs to see her obgyn,he/she can help her get thru this. Good luck to both of you.

Answer 5

If she is Pre-Menopausal her hormones are out of control and she can't help it. When us women go through that we are apt to say and do things we wouldn't normally do. She needs to see a doctor that can give her something to help her.

You just need to be a little more patient and understanding. Do something or take her somewhere that you think she would enjoy. Maybe help her more around the house or even offer to do the dishes. Be close by so you can catch her when she faints!!!

Answer 6

we will never know the answer because in selfish people lies deceit, to be honest she may just be tired of being somebody she is not she seems to be a person who smiles when sad and laughs when she wants to cry don't let her run away try and help her find her self , the deceit i said before is her not telling you what she really wants , make it known that your love is true and she has you full devotion . if thing don't change i wish you luck in your time of need i hope you can find someone to depend on .. good luck

Answer 7

she is going through a mid life crisis, where she is looking back on her life, and isn't quite pleased with it, maybe she has been taking care of people for awhile and needs some tender loving care for herself. she mostlikely has met someone else, and it is making her feel quite confident about herself, and when this happens sometimes they can't see the truth,or logic, all they know is how this person makes them feel and it does no good to try and talk to them, cause they aren't open to anything u have to say.

Answer 8

She is being selfish.
You two need to have a good long talk about your feelings about what each other puts/takes into the realtionship... let her know how much you really do. sometimes a woman overlooks what a man does b/c of howmuch she is doing.. and that is all she can think about

Answer 9

Sometimes it is not being good to a person. You never mentioned how good you are to her.
A person may feel that their needs are not being met, not paying attention to them when others are around, not sharing things together, and there are several other things that make things change between partners.
Sit down and talk together and maybe counseling regardless if only one person attends.
Good Luck.

Answer 10

it is some sort like u taste the same food everyday,u w'd get fedup of the taste,unless u change the other different taste.so v all married men be aware! v ve to change our life styles every times,not only stay at home is enough but also go outside 4 shopping abroad with her!