A couple year ago my brother died I was very young, when they told me I cried but the next day I didnt cry and I still cant cry about it.Ive even been to therspy I cant cry I should though.And I loved him very much.
Is there something wrong with me?
2006-11-22 13:28:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
NOTHNG IS WRONG WITH YOU. I'M THE SAME WAY. JUST BECAUSE YOU DON'T CRY OR CAN'T CRY DOSN'T MEAN ANYTHING. EVEN THOUGH YOU CANT SHOW YOUR EMOTIONS FOR YOUR BROTHER DOESN'T MEAN THAT YOU DON'T LOVE HIM ANYMORE. PEOPLE HAVE DIFFERENT WAYS OF SHOWING THEIR EMOTIONS. YOU SHOW YOUR LOVE FOR HIM DIFFERNTLY THATN YOUR PARENTS OR ANYONE ELSE IN YOUR FAMILY.
2006-11-22 13:36:42 · answer #1 · answered by pheobe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. I had the same problem that you did. My brother passed away three years ago and I am a year younger than him. I cried the first day and a little on the second but at his funeral I did not cry and also at the mass they had in his honor. I have seen my mom and my whole family cry but I personally cannot cry. I have taken medication and have gone to therapy, I visit his tomb in the cementary and I do feel a sadness but no tears. I do not think anything is wrong with you but I do think that someday we are going to cry and you are going to understand why you could not cry, recently I figured out that I could not cry because I was mad I had a lot of anger in me and my mom actually asked me to scream and hit anything I could to let that anger out and now that I visit his tomb I cry for him. I don't know if this is going to help but this is my piece of the story.
2006-11-23 00:24:43 · answer #2 · answered by aims 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU! and I'm very sorry for the tragedy. I think maybe the reason you don't want to cry is because I don't think you really want to accept what has happened. When we hear tragic news, it's human for us to cry. But the longer we think about it, we can choose to either accept reality or denounce it. I can tell you loved him very much and you don't want to accept he's gone. He will always live in your heart though. You need to see a professional to go over and continue the grieving process. Perhaps the therapist you went too was not addressing the issue appropriately. I wish you luck!
2006-11-22 21:32:57 · answer #3 · answered by Professor Bradley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not anything wrong with you. Sometimes our expectations of grief are too broad. It could be that you have a larger capacity to endure tragedy than others. You probably grieved in your own way and probably still do. Grieving isn't just shedding tears, it's having the ability to let go and move on. God bless you and I hope the best for you.
2006-11-22 21:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by rexallen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sure this is normal for some people.
i can cry just like that in mins. and somethings i think i'm a wierd person for cry like a baby. lately i cry because it's been almost 5 years that my dad, step-dad, a good friend and my best friends mom passed away within 3 months of each other that's hard to go through. hey it's ok ,your a good person.
2006-11-22 21:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by cutemay1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emma, nothing is wrong with you, take my word. If you dont cry, you dont cry.. you cant force it, that is just how it is. Maybe you will cry later on in your life, maybe you wont.. it should not make you feel guilty because u feel you should be 'crying'. Dont stress about it, if you love him, you love him and thats all that matters.
2006-11-22 21:57:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. That's what happens to me when i loose someone. But now i don't even cry when someone else dies. I wasn't brought up with any kind of emotion towards those sort of things. Because no one cares when i need someone to care for me I just don't care about anyone or anything.
2006-11-22 21:47:51 · answer #7 · answered by gottaluvme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People grieve in different ways. Maybe, you have been in denial or shock. I think that you would get a better answer if you asked this question in Psychology. Good luck.
2006-11-22 21:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of people handle greif differently, maybe you are still in shock over what happened and havent completely accepted it yet when you do you will know the fact you have not cried has nothing to do with how much you loved him sounds to me like you are still numb from the news
2006-11-22 21:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by needshelp 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no,everyone deals with death a different way. your brother knows that you love him.
2006-11-22 21:31:50 · answer #10 · answered by Joe F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋