The doctor says its best to wait till 12 weeks (1st trimester) have passed to be past the danger zone. gosh the whole family is coming in for saturday dinner this week , thats when we celebrate Thanksgiving, thats when we want to tell them , do you all think we should wait till 12 weeks have passed ????
2006-11-22 13:20:49 · 27 answers · asked by cowhorse01 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
How about waiting until Christmas? It would be approx. 12 weeks and would be a great Christmas surprise. If you don't celebrate Christmas, how about New Years? Good luck to you, the Wife and the Babies!
2006-11-22 13:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would tell them. Hopefully you wife and babies will be okay with no dangers but if you tell close family and friends you will have more support that way, during the pregnancy, and if god forbid something went wrong. But if you Dr. had suspected anything to be wrong they would have told you. And the 12 week mark will be here quicker than you realize. It would be a nice holiday surprise for everyone. If you are still undecided maybe you could tell everyone on christmas it is only a month a way. But I know it is hard to keep this secret. I am only 10 weeks with a history of miscarriage and everyone knows im preggo.
2006-11-22 13:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal Woods 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can do as you wish the doctor is only trying to spare you and your wife's feelings if something were to happen, why not tell every body at Christmas. that should be long enough. telling family right away isn't so bad its telling co workers and friends that are the problem at least family is involved and usually they know whats up in your lives. It's the people that don't know that may be of concern down the road. I m sure your baby is going to be healthy and I wish you the best of luck.
2006-11-22 13:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you guys are excited BEYOND belief. CONGRATS!!! From personal experience only, I would recommend that you stick w/ your dr's advice. I know waiting is MISERABLE but just think of it as just a little longer that you and your beloved have a secret just between the two of you. How long's it been since you guys kept something from the rest of the world? It could make your bond with your spouse even stronger knowing that the miracles you two have created are secretly safe and sound. (We were pregnant with twins on my current pregnancy and mysteriously it apparently wasnt meant to be..I lost 1 of them at about 10 weeks. Not something you want to rehash OVER and OVER again as you try to tell everyone you've already told..) only you two know what is right for you, but in any case I truly wish you ALL the very best!! Happy Holidays and Good LUCK!!
2006-11-22 13:27:44 · answer #4 · answered by emsmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people like to wait, but your good news is way too good not to share. and with twins chances are she will be showing prior to the 12 weeks anyways. If something should happen prior to the 12 weeks you will have the support of family and friends who you already told.
Many congratulations and the best of luck to your rapidly expanding family!!
2006-11-22 13:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by his temptress 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them, God forbid anything should happen, you will have the support of your family. Whereas if they find out because something went wrong they might wonder if there was something wrong that u knew and that thats why you didn't share it earlier.
Its joyous news and u need ur family either way. Congratulations and a prayer said so that all will be well for the four of u.
2006-11-22 13:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by fatima_mst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a normal situation, it would be most prudent to wait, here's why; if you announce it early, and something (god forbid) happens, you will have to deal with the pain of "un-announcing" it. Does your doc have some specific concerns? or is he just making a blanket statement. I think it would be lots of fun to announce it to the whole family while they are gathered. You can't live your life in fear of the worst happening. And the fam would be your biggest support group if problems occurred wouldn't they? Are you both strong enough to deal with the possible consequences? I say, go for it.
2006-11-22 13:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by Caper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell them that you are pregnant but I wouldn't tell them about the twin part yet just in case something (I pray that nothing does) happens. That's why the doctor said to wait until the 12 weeks are up. But congratulations to both of you.
2006-11-22 13:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by Jai 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should wait or tell them you might be pregnant. I had a friend who's wife miscarried after 3 months and she had already told everyone and then you never know what to tell someone who has miscarried, people will feel awkward. Actually I will change my mind and say tell everyone because I think i just proved stuff happens no matter what so live in the moment.
2006-11-22 13:30:35 · answer #9 · answered by andrephoenix 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi
If you dont tell them now and wait untill 12 weeks..well...I dont want to scare you, but lets face it, life is unpredictable. What if something happens. How do you think your whole family will feel then if they did not even know that you guys were pregnant at the first place?
In that situation you would need all support you can get from them, but you will get a bunch of upset and hurt realtives instead.
2006-11-22 13:25:02 · answer #10 · answered by Julia 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋