2006-11-22 13:16:23 · 22 answers · asked by nicelasvegas2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course you should be upset,Is this something he did before you were married?I have been with my husband for 10 years and I have never seen him look at another woman or ever make a comment about how pretty someone else is.It's a respect thing and I do the same for him so that neither of us has to feel insecure about our relationship.What's fair is fair,how would he feel if you looked at other men the way he looks at other women?
2006-11-22 13:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
You need to grow up. Period. Men look because it is part of the way we are wired. If he stops looking, then he is probably getting something on the side. Men think about sex once ever 10 seconds or so. Just because he is looking, does not diminish his feelings for you. By you getting upset or drawing notice to it, it is only going to embarrass him and possibly cause a huge fight for nothing more than a simple thing that most men cannot stop. We use our eyes to view the scenery around us. You may want to address that issue by looking at yourself. The issue you have my be a lack of self-esteem or a poor self image. There is no reason to question yourself or doubt your own good looks because he is glancing at the background. Take the energy that you put into getting aggravated over him looking and use it to build up a positive self image. Look in the mirror everyday and say to yourself, while looking yourself in the eyes, "I am a beautiful person." I have had others do just this and it does work.
2006-11-22 13:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by PrezStain 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a destructive emotion yet useful in a monogamous relationship. He is a male and it is preprogramming that he looks. Nevertheless, the law should be “Don't even think about it.” Or " Look but do not touch." Don’t get mad when you do this but use your feminine know how to get him back towards you. Men love this in a woman. Remind him that your are the best and then prove it to him each and every time. I know it's hard to be able to know what he is thinking however his thoughts will manifest them selves. If this is so then he is not faithful in his heart and at sometime he will be tempted and may do somethinjg about it. Get and win him over it by being the best wife he could ever have.
2006-11-22 13:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by Michael JENKINS 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can get upset when he looks at other girls all the time. My husband looks at other woman but only every now & again and it is just a quick glace and he saids that looking is better then touching. Men still need a bit of excitment. You can't tell me that you don't look at hot guys. I do and he knows I do. But you love each other so much that it doesn't matter, cause you would never take it further. Hang in there.
2006-11-22 13:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jess B 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's normal for him to look, and it's normal for you to get upset. He should tone it down a little, out of respect for you. Tell him that you know he's not dead, and that he can't help but notice other women, but you'd appreciate it if he would keep his staring to a minimum.
2006-11-22 13:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by The_Cricket: Thinking Pink! 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When my husband stops looking at other women I know I'm in trouble. It's normal for men to look at women other than their wives. The problem comes when they decide to take action with one of them. It's really a matter of trust. Looking is one thing, deciding to take action is another. Try looking at other women with him. It can either open new doors for you both or make him uncomfortable enough to stop his roaming eyes, or it might not do a thing. Either way, it sounds like he's going to do it anyway so you might as well try a different approach. Yes, it's normal and so you might as well join in the fun.
2006-11-22 13:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by L R 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. Usually unnecessary, but normal. I get upset when my husband stares at girls...
2006-11-22 13:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by tortasinqueso 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its normal. If he's gonna look and he will. He's married not dead-let him know it upsets you. Maybe if he knows it upsets you he will not look when you are with him.
Most married men learn to look without their wife knowing they are looking. Men are very visual creatures. And he may not even realize it bothers you. Speak up and talk about it. And do you look at guys?
2006-11-22 13:20:37 · answer #8 · answered by firefly06 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You know, the truth is men can't help it. We're going to look. That doesn't mean we don't love you. It's a genetic thing.
That being said, he should have the decency to at least be discreet.
2006-11-22 13:20:09 · answer #9 · answered by Paul 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to look, but staring is another issue. He should know better. How old is he?
2006-11-22 13:38:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋