She is constantly telling him lies. He is over the road trucker. So she calls him with all kinds of tales. She doesnt live with us is married and has a baby.
2006-11-22 13:14:18 · 20 answers · asked by linluv2001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If it's affecting the way he treats you, make him choose. Period.
Either you love me and believe me or you don't. It's that simple.
I wouldn't have ANYONE coming into my marriage spreading crap and be expected to take it.
If breaking you up is her ultimate goal, so be it. If he hasn't got the cajones to stand up to her for you, then he isn't much of a man or worth having.
Yes, I know it's hard to stop loving someone or leave them, but what's more important? Your love life or your sanity?
You can learn to love again but, you'll never get your mind back.
P.S.
I OTR myself. I hear ya. Have him put his foot down or give him the boot. You don't need that aggravation, abuse, disrespect or ridiculousness from either of them.
2006-11-22 13:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by WHY? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the step daughter is probably jealous of you in the marriage to her Father. That is a given. You didn't really say what "tales" the step daughter is telling the Father. If he trusts you then you have nothing to worry about. If it gets so bad, which it sounds like it is..then why not ask your hubby to step in and put his foot his down on her behavior. Because otherwise it will continue, because he keeps answering her phone calls. Have you thought about calling her husband every time she calls your hubby? Send abit of that grief back where it belongs. I mean if you can't sit down with this girl and talk to her about this situation. Then she is going to keep it up. But it will bite her in the butt eventually. She can't keep her nose in your business and keeps hers clean at home.
2006-11-22 13:30:11 · answer #2 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop her from doing what she's doing, so forget that angle.
You can talk with your husband and see how it is affecting him, if he doesn't believe her, then it's his place to stop her, or at least not tell you what she is saying.
If he does seem to believe her, then starting planning for a divorce and get on with your life. She may still be his darling baby long after you are out of the picture, just the same as if it were one of your children, they will always come first. What goes around comes around.....pretty much true for everyone.
2006-11-22 13:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should know you- and I'm sure he has already figured out that his daughter is not an honest person- don't sweat the small stuff- and don't let her get to you, because thats exactly what she wants. don't give in to her.
you don't have to say a word.... she'll ruin her relationship with her dad soon enough!
curious- what kind of lies can she come up with if she doesn't live with you?
2006-11-22 13:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's an adult and the behavior is uncalled for. As long as you know that was she says is untrue and your spouse believes you, I would just continue to have faith in your marriage and keep as minimal contact with her as possible. If you have to be in the same room with her or on the phone, say as little as possible so that your words do not get twisted and thrown back at you. Hope your husband knows what his daughter is capable of and believes you.
2006-11-22 13:20:56 · answer #5 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all there must be a reason 4 her behaviour is she approachable can you confront her and simply ask her whats going on and why she maybe jeaslous if she was center of attention before u came along this could be why beleive me there ia always a reason just ask her and see if you cant solve this if she wont talk to you its time you have a talk to hubby but also try to talk to him calmly as he wont listen if u r on the attack men r very protective over their daughters hpe this helps u gd lk
2006-11-22 13:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by susan f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to have a family meeting. I would ask her how would she feel and the shoe was on the other foot. She also needs to worry about her home and not yours. tell her to clean the garbage in her own back yard and leave yours alone. god bless you and good luck.
2006-11-22 13:19:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately children often break up marriages. I guess I mean to say children from previous marriages.
For some reason she has it out for you. You're either going to have to work things out with your husband, so he stops listening to her, or work things out with her. The only other option is to start packing.
2006-11-22 13:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by Paul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter seems to have a personality disorder. Short of getting a restraining order..maybe a conversation with your daughter & her husband may shock them into reality.
2006-11-22 13:18:35 · answer #9 · answered by worldsource19 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to talk to her and to him. If your married he married you for a reason and she needs to understand that. Is there any reason for her not trusting you. Don't approach them the wrong way remember this is his child and usually children come before beaus.
2006-11-22 13:17:48 · answer #10 · answered by kit_e_kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋