Right now, I just don't know what to do, my boyfriend seems to want sex happening. We've been dating for 4 months approximatly now and it seems like it's time to get to the next level for him. He's more experienced than me and he expect sex at his age.
I don't know what to really do : say yes or no. I am just scared of it happening. What do you think I should do ?
2006-11-22 13:11:06 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
By the way, I'm old : I'm 19.
2006-11-22 13:25:19 · update #1
They ALL want sex, I don't care how old they are. You didn't say how old you are, but you sound young.
What I would like to tell you is this: It's YOUR body. You are responsible for taking care of it. Do not let anyone else tell you what to do with your body. It's not there for someone else to use to accommodate their own needs, even if you're feeling generous. Using is using. You are not a thing, you are a person.
If you don't want to have sex with this person yet, then don't. If they insist, and you're afraid of losing them because of it, you haven't lost anything. Wait for someone who will appreciate you for being you. When you have sex with THAT Person, it will be awesome. Sex is a natural stage in the progression of a relationship, but there are no rules about reaching certain levels at certain times.
Men are physically geared to want sex as often as possible. That's just something they have to deal with. You have to deal with taking care of yourself, respecting yourself, and how you will feel when you look in the mirror the next morning. Will you be okay with it, will you be relieved, or will you want a very long hot shower?
Good luck to you.
2006-11-22 13:19:33 · answer #1 · answered by His Old Lady 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I think most guys that date a girl who is 19 for 4 months would start to get a lttle frustrated if she won't have sex or do anything with him. If you're religous and waiting till you're married you need to be honest with him and tell him that now and you should be up front with guys in the future because like I said most guys expect it from a girl over 16 if they date for more than a month. If you're not saving yourself for marriage but just don't want to do it yet maybe your just not into it much which means at some point you may just do it anyway to keep your man happy. If you just not feeling ready and want to keep him as your bf, maybe just give him oral to keep him happy.
2006-11-25 10:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by kayla j 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. I don't know how old or how experienced you are, but here is my opinion.
Sex is a HUGE deal. It is not just for fun. It is a personal, intimate connection that should be shared only with someone you truly love. Even if you are 100% in love, you still need to be ready to commit to sex
If you do have sex, use protection and use it properly and use it always. An unwanted pregnancy, especially if you are young and unmarried, can ruin your life. An STD can also ruin your life, and in the case of AIDS, it can kill you.
Think long and hard before making a final decision. It YOUR decision, not his.
2006-11-22 13:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by Raina 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay 4 months is not long enough for you guys to be thinking about sex. In fact I dont even think 4 months is enough to love someone unless you were friends with them before you started dating or something like that. I think you should tell him that your not ready yet and that he going a little fast for you. Epescially since your not that experienced. If he wants sex after only four months that kinda shows that he only wants to have sex with you and not because he loves you. So my advice would be to wait. At least until your sure that he loves you and that you are actually ready for this. If he is pressuring you about it and getting mad because you dont want to do it than hes not the right guy for you. The right guy would not mind waiting until your ready.
2006-11-22 13:26:31 · answer #4 · answered by luvfades 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A woman's body is like a temple...not just any father's son can enter. Respect yourself if you want people to respect you. Be firm and stick to your principle. Some may think its cool to lose thier virginity. Some teenagers even find it a trend. Its all bullcrap. Being smart, successful and a heart of gold is the coolest thing to do. If he wants to leave you coz you dont give him what he wants, even better. What if he leaves you after you get pregnant? Anyway he is not a boyfriend. He is an animal. If he pester and force you give his Jiggly Ding Dong a hard kick.
2006-11-23 00:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by NeedHelpGivesHelp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't have sex just because he is pressuring you. He is not the one for you. Your first time should not be due to pressure or being scared.
Your first time should be very special and only when YOU are ready. Right now--you need to take care of you. When you are in love--you will not be asking for advice from us, you will know it.
Save yourself for someone special, not someone who has slept around. Once you sleep with him--you will be old news and he will move on, then what?
2006-11-22 13:21:22 · answer #6 · answered by Kathy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey listen, if ur scared, if ur not sure: wait, there is no reason for u to rush soemthign liek that. and if he is makign u feel rushed he's an asshole and deserves a quick slap to the brain. i dotn care if he is 82, if he really cares about u, he will be sensitive to how u feel about sex, he will tell u its okay for u to wait if u need more time, and he loves u just as much anyway :)
if he loves u, he wont do soemthign he knows will hurt u. and he will repect u. if a man does not respect u, im sorry but hes not changin any time soon, he will disregard ur opinion and how u feel about EVERYTHING. have soem respect for urself, realize ur opninion does matter, and ur feeligns matter. and if they dotn matter to him, then he doesnt deserve u, nevermind about the sex.
i sugest u talking to him about ur fears, and ask him what he thinks about u waiting, thats a good way to see how a guy respects u, even if u dotn plan on waiting. if u cant be honest about ur feelings with him, then its also too soon for ur relationship to "reach another lvl" cuase u havent even reached a basic one.
2006-11-22 13:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st of alll hun, i wouldnt come on here and ask the whole world wide, we all know that more than 50% will say, have sex with him, u have to choose, its ur choice, if u think its the right time to do it, dont, dont think, it should be yes its time to do it, no it seems, im still a virgin and im proud of it, 2nd, talk to someone eles about, someone close to u, close gf or ur mum, i knwo its embarrasing but how do u think u came into the world? LOL seriously hun, its ur choice, if u helps, do a pro and con list, and which ever one u get more on do it, but only if it feels right, i hope this helps hun, good luck. xXx
2006-11-22 13:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by sexyelmo089 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just do what you feel is right. It sounds like right now you aren't ready to go that far into having sex. It is a big step in a relationship and if you really feel like you do not want to take that step, then please for your own self, don't. That's one thing you do not have to rush into, none the less give into at all. If your boyfriend truely loves you then he will respect you for it.
2006-11-22 13:17:26 · answer #9 · answered by kerrberr95 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are scared, you are obviously too young.
For me personally, sex should be after marriage. It's more precious then, you just don't give your virginity away to somebody, but ONLY to the one that you want to spent the rest of your life with together.
Nowadays sex is just a casual thing that everybody seems to be doing with everyone. It has become perverted, and it's really sad sometimes to hear guys and girls list how many they have slept with already. To me it's sad. When I hear them speak, I don't look up to them and say to myself "I wish I were them." No, to me, I look at them, and I feel sorry for them, that they have used and abused there body like that.
My opinion.
2006-11-22 13:20:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋