Death in a family how to deal?

Question

My friends father died 4 months ago how can I help him?

Answer 1

Theres not much you can say. The best thing to do is just be there if he wants to talk. Lots of times people that have lost a loved one just needs someone to listen and it helps a lot. Doesn't really matter how are old you are its rough losing your dad and it does take time. I wish I could tell you that you could tell your friend that the pain will go away. The pain doesnt go away it just gets a little easier to handle as time goes by.

Just be there and if he wants to talk let him talk just listen. Sometimes talking is the best thing. Don't forget about him as time goes on as most people do. Most just forget after a few months--he will still need a good friend then too.

Answer 2

To help a friend under those conditions is commendable, yet it can be trying. If the two were real close, you might need to tread lightly and make your offer to help any way possible. Sometimes, the type of death is also a factor in how someone deals with with it. My mom died after several years of constant and terminal lung problems. Although I didn't want to lose her, having been by her side through several traumatic events and knowing that the constant trips to the emergency room at all hours of the day or night, I knew inevitably that the day was coming when she wouldn't make it home. When the day came, it relieved a lot of pressure that had built up over a long period of time and enabled me to relax for the first time in a long time. Her passing was peaceful and knowing I had done everything possible to enable her to live as long as she could made it a lot easier to let go. My final word is ti be patient, longsuffering, and honestly try to do teh best you can to comfort your friend.

Answer 3

The best thing is to keep doing the things you did together before it happened. Don't tip toe around him asking if he is ok all the time. He has to grieve in his own way. In 1 year I lost my father, grandmother, aunt, my husband' father, grandmother, and grandfather, a friend's father, and a friend from work. I think I might know about the grieving process a little.

Answer 4

well my mom died late august this year and i know that it took a while before i was even ready to talk about it. now i find it really helpful to have my friends by my side because i really need them in a time like this so i think you should do the same for your friend

Answer 5

Just be there for your friend lend a shoulder whenever needed always listen to what you friend have to say when talking about his or her father. I know the feeling I lost my daughter 3yrs ago and it helps me alots to talk about her sometimes

Answer 6

It is very hard to comfort friends. If he doesn't talk about it then invite him over to cry and whatever you do don't let your friend forget about him. Go places his father liked going and spend alot of time with your friends, Just be there.

Answer 7

death is not the end....it is just the taking of another path....to that undiscovered country....the last great frontier....
death is a normal progression ....just as being born is a natural progression...give your friend time to grieve...and to deal with the pain...if it seems that he cant deal with the loss..then you ...as a friend....need to suggest that he seek professional help to deal with his loss....
good luck

Answer 8

just let them vint i lost 7 frnds in less than a year we get tierd of hearing the same stuff over and over oh hes in a better place if he wants to talk about it just listen to him and let him vent

Answer 9

just try to cheer him by taking him places like the movies and places like that but make him think of good tims not bad.

Answer 10

Jus comfort him...dats da best thing to do...he got to get it all out so it wouldnt be all inside him forever...da sooner da betta