We just ended it last night, I'm not sure if I should lie & tell my family that he's not coming to Thanksgiving dinner b/c he had to go out of town for some reason, or if I should tell the truth but then I think it would be a big downer holiday for everyone.
2006-11-22 12:57:24 · 24 answers · asked by lostgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Play it by ear. You may not have to volunteer anything. Your family may just see it in your facial expression. Best wishes
2006-11-22 13:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would wait, and I think you think this would be the best approach yourself only because of your concern for your family members becoming upset under the circumstances. You don't have to lie, just say he wasn't able to come and leave it at that. Or is your family the questioning type, why, where is he, that sort of thing, then you may have to say he had to go to . . . . . . and actually where ever he went, say so . . . . he went to his parents, he went to some friends that he hasn't seen in a while, and don't say anything more about it. Say, you don't wish to discuss it and change the subject. I think they will get the jest that you just don't want to talk about it. Thanksgiving is a time to be with friends and/or family and you want it to be as enjoyable as possible without tearing up trying to answer questions.
2006-11-22 13:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should tell your mom at least. If it were me they would already know cause I cant keep quiet when Im mad. I think you should have told them before but now have to tell them on Thanksgiving. If you are not all depressed and crying your problem shouldnt affect the whole Thanksgiving. They will take your lead so put your head up and smile after all if it wasnt right then they wouldnt want you to do it would they? They are your family they love you.
2006-11-22 13:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them now. Knowing the love they have for you they'll understand. Just keep it short and sweet and let them know they'll know the details once Thanksgiving is over. You didn't sound like you were in love or hurting in any way shape for form. If this is the case. More power to you. God closes one door while there is always many more open. There are more fish in the sea.
Best to you on this Thanksgiving Holiday.
2006-11-22 13:02:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think everyone will be all down and out tell them after-wards...But just be prepared for the questions:
1. Where is he...?
2. When is he coming?
3. Are you guys fighting?
That's a tough one.....but Happy Thanksgiving and Good Luck to you
2006-11-22 13:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by girlegyrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry things didn't work out. :(
I'd tell the truth rather than make something up as an excuse for him not being there. I would go ahead and tell them for several reasons: 1) you only have to tell the story once instead of several times to several family members. 2) this has to be a sad and lonely experience for you and hopefully your family and those who love you would do everything they could to help you through it. 3) once Thanksgiving activities get underway hopefully they can help you perk up a little and help you focus on something other than your relationship - even if it's just for one day.
2006-11-22 13:04:18 · answer #6 · answered by L R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait and tell them that he just is not coming and you don't really know why. If you tell them that your "FIANCE" and you broke up, you really could make people sad on teh holiday. At least if you wait until after the holiday, everyone has a nice time, and then they get the bad news after a really good day.
2006-11-22 12:59:53 · answer #7 · answered by pilotmanitalia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait and tell them because you don't want to ruin everybody's Thanksgiving. Tell them that he decided to have dinner with his family. Who knows you might work things out. He might just actually show up.
2006-11-22 13:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by mocha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose that depends on how much your family liked your boyfriend lol. If they really didn't like him much anyway, it might make a happier day!
Seriously though, don't try to bring them down, but don't lie. Just say he couldn't be here today, and leave it at that. If they question you further, just tell them you'd rather save it for another time.
2006-11-22 13:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is hard. But how do you know how they will react. MAybe they will understand why you did it, if you explain it to them. But I would wait till the dinner. Just tell them plain out what happened and you just might be surprised. SO good luck.
2006-11-22 13:05:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probablly better to just get it over with, if you say he is away on business there will be questions, and asking about the wedding plans etc. It will be really hard to hide your feelings and smile all day. Let your family support you, be thankful you have them to spend the day with. If you don't then it will be too close to Christmas then too close to New Years, then too close to Valentine's etc. Good Luck!
2006-11-22 13:02:48 · answer #11 · answered by joan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋