husband 10yrs asked me out but i saw him w/her i love him 2 death but dont know how stay away hes so much 2 me

Question

he cheated & it wasnt the 1st time i love him so much & he isnot even a good father/husb but i love him. He was everything hes the only men i ever been with i met him when i was 15 married him when i was 20 & have 2 girls 2gether. but he cheated & this time i actually saw him with her he said he only leaned over 4 a kiss on the cheek but i could swear they were kissing. I found out after so many doubts finally found out emaisl that were sent to each other, he claims he didnt sleep w/her 1/2 of me belives him why? after i comfronted him he ran away i follow & all he said was the things werent the way they seem after those email he still said no why?? i love him, why lie to me 1x he called her after &meet w/her in a dead end st. that i just happend 2 drive by & saw them and all he said was he knew he had ****** up but didnt sleep w/her. i left the house after 5mon of problems hoping he'll come after me but never did & i begged him so many times how do get strong & walk away?

Answer 1

yes it hurts when we see him with her, and he is telling us something different than what our eyes tell us. it is exacly the way you saw it, he is avoiding having to be upfront and honest, because he isn't sure of her, maybe she is married also and has to get her divorce. the only way he will come after u is if she don't want him anymore, so sorry for my advice, but it is true. we think because we love them, that love will prevail, and that they also love us back. i too loved my husband, and really believed he loved me and would come back, than i saw them together,and it told the whole story, had to admit than my marriage as i knew it was dead, and i had to move on to keep my own sanity. your expecting what's not going to happen atleast right now, he hides and sneaks around behind your back, are u happy with it? even if he did leave this one and come home, how long until he went back to her or met another one, this is who he is dear, this is part of his character, he claims he has never slept with her, you are so in denial, because it is painful to see someone we love as being this kind of person. sending prayers your way.

Answer 2

I agree fully with what was said above. However I believe you need more then a solid "no" everyday. You need professional help. I don't know what country your from, so I don't know your options. But you do need to sit down with a professional to get all your feelings out. Once that's done, your can start piecing them together. Obviously this isn't healthy. You obviously don't deserve this. Nor does your children deserve to be brought up in a disfunctional household. Please do the right thing, and teach your girls that no man has the right to treat a woman like this, and teach them to be strong independant women.

Answer 3

I know it's hard, but I think your mostly suffering from the "rejection". Rejection is the worst feeling anyone will ever feel, believe me!! But it's time for you to start loving yourself, and not put up with such disrespect. If you loved someone, would you do this to them? NO, so why let them do it to you? Wake up, and pat yourself on the shoulder everyday you say NO! Because each time you say NO, it's a day closer to liking yourself, and bettering your self-esteem. Work on making some changes in your life to build your self-esteem, and YOU be the one picking who YOU want to be with. Your time is OVER with your ex, he lost his privileges when he was with another female! Your better than taking sloppy seconds!!