How do you know that your spouse is a manipulator?

Question

It seems I would like to get out of my relationship,but everytime I find that reason he turns it around and makes me feel that I am in the wrong. Like him being bi, he said that it is all in my head. He blames ms for him not wanting to have sex. Are there other people out there that are too nice and feel guilty for leaving? I am sooo frustrated.

Answer 1

At the end of the day, you have to put yourself first. That can be easier said than done, but you do yourself no favours by staying in a relationship that causes you unhappiness. When you do eventually walk away, you will soon realise that it was a good decision, and you will feel better for it. In fact, you will wonder why you did not do it before. No good person wants to break a relationship, but no bad relationship is worth the suffering of a good person. It is your goodness that he is exploiting, but he probably does it unknowingly, because he is not well. I imagine that he needs help, but professional help, and that there is nothing that he will let you do for him. Maybe your departure will alert him to his defects. Let's hope so.