How well do you deal with confrontation?

Question

Does it matter whether it's positive or negative?

Answer 1

No one really likes confrontation. We all must deal with it at one point in our lives, or more often than that. Here is a website that helps gives more insite on it. I have copied and pasted some things about it. There is another website on the bottom with expamples.http://tkdtutor.com/07Defense/Confrontation.htm

Everyone will experience some type of confrontation during their lives. Some confrontations are minor, such as a parent who is mad at you for the decision you made as a referee; some may be major, such as an irate motorist that wants to hurt you because you cut him off in traffic. In any case, your ultimate goal is to end the confrontation as soon as possible with minimum problems. To accomplish this, you need to manage confrontations and guide them toward the desired outcome.

Confrontation Phases
Confrontation consists of five phases: initiation, reaction, control, execution, and completion; with initiation and reaction being the most critical.

Initiation. Initiation is a psychological phase where one perceives that conflict is imminent and that physical force may be necessary. Without this decision to commit to the confrontation, no conflict may occur ,and thus no reaction to the threat is needed. A wrong decision may result in your being injured or killed. A correct assessment of the situation at this phase may mean the difference between a fight or no fight. This assessment often occurs at a subconscious level, since there is usually no time for conscious thought.

Reaction. Reaction is the defensive or offensive actions taken in response to an attack. This is perhaps the most critical of all phases since error or hesitation may result in defeat. Any reaction must be executed calmly, smoothly, quickly, and with authority. During the reaction phase, or at least at its beginning, the opponent is strong and active. Psychologically, the opponent feels superior and confident or there would not be an attack. Always give the opponent the choice of not to attack. It will keep you safe—morally, legally, and physically.

Control. Sun Zi, in his strategic military treatise "The Art of War" says to never attack a strong and psychologically prepared opponent. The wise way is to turn the enemy's strength to weakness before attacking or counter attacking. This may be accomplished by yielding, absorbing, blocking, or neutralizing the attack and then striking to incapacitate. Relatively little force is needed to control the opponent since he or she has been caught at his or her weakest point. Psychologically this method is devastating because the opponent loses just as he or she feels on the verge of victory.

Execution. In the execution phase, finishing techniques (if necessary) are applied to ensure the opponent does not continue to fight.

Completion. After execution, the situation is reassessed as to whether there is still a threat and whether further action is required.

Answer 2

I thought all confrontation was pretty much negative. How can it be positive? ( i'm a bit confused)

I handle it pretty good i'd say. I can handle any sort of confrontation BUT what I can't handle is when people don't listen, unfortunately a lot of the time when people are being confrontational they are babbling and ranting. I just stand my ground. I don't know how to explain it really..

Answer 3

Confrontation is very normal, especially in work place. The point is you must learn or figure out a way, your own style, that would smooth out conflict, ending up with rationality and acceptance to reach some consensus.

The best way to deal with confrontation is not to avoid it, but to face it. Of course, you gotta be smart, in some situation, the best way is avoidance if you are not communicating some issues, but emotional reaction of the counterparty.

Answer 4

normally having a posative outlook tends to help you when you're dealing with confrontation. But every once in a while negative works to. The key to dealing with comfrontation is to try and remain calm and dont act to irrational because you'll come off looking worse.

Answer 5

working in retail i've got been in distinctive circumstances the place shoppers get abusive in the direction of me, and mutually as i'm being paid to help shoppers and be polite in the direction of them, i'm not being paid to take such abuse. confronted with this predicament i've got discovered the superb reaction is to look unimpressed and then lightly turn my decrease back and stroll away. This has knocked the wind out of extra advantageous than one blowhard's sails. Anger is something that grows in case you feed into it, so if somebody confronts you and get offended decrease back it particularly is in basic terms going to amplify. If somebody tries something actual there is extremely not something you're able to do yet shelter your self, yet till that element in basic terms appearing such as you're above all of it and refusing to take part in the war of words works extremely nicely. human beings sense extraordinarily stupid yelling at skinny air.

Answer 6

Lately I've been handling it much better. Even if I still physically get nervous things, I am calmly handling it on an interpersonal level. It doesn't matter if it's threat of robbery or violence or if it's someone coming to tell me they're quitting at the last second or whatnot.

Answer 7

Confrontations are the results of differences in societies. They are not deadly as long as they are not filled with hatred and anger.

Answer 8

Either way (positive or negative) I avoid it at all costs.

Answer 9

Not very well. I can't confront people.

Answer 10

it depends on the situation but whatever you do stay strong and dont back down