I have this friend and he means a lot 2 me but latley I have been crushing on him.He gives me siganls that he likes me and he admires my body but something about him just isnt right.Now dont get me wrong,Ihave nothing against gays!!!He has something 2 him that makes me think 2wice about his sexuality.He has a soft voice nd says and does things that make me feel uncomfortable.Such as him backing it ^ on me or making girl moaning noises.Should I just excuse it or 4get about him?
2006-11-22 10:57:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
So are you saying this friend that means so much to you will mean nothing to you if he is gay!
That's some friendship you have, I guess you really care about him.
I would ask him if he is attracted to you, if he says yes and you are truly not attracted to him then tell him so.
Just tell him that you are straight and care a great deal for him but have no desires for him in that respect. And also tell him if he continues to make innuendos or advances that you will have to end your friendship. No one should be pushing themselves sexually on anyone and it is far too uncomfortable for the person receiving the advances.
Of course if you are attracted to him at least admit it to yourself if and when you would admit it to him is up to you, but you should not end a good friendship over it.
You both should be able to through this, if you are truly friends and care for each other that is.
2006-11-22 11:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by Crampy Grampy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww man come on. The only reason that you wouldn't say something about some crazy stuff like that is if you like it. And if that is the case then start flirting back. If you don't like it then you should have set that boy straight A LONG TIME AGO. The reason that he does what he does around you is because you have allowed him to feel comfortable. Your silence is only going to cause him to keep pushing the envelope. If you don't like it SAY SO, your silence is sending mixed signals, man.
2006-11-22 19:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by Andre L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. Trying to guess, read his mind or worse get someone else to try and guess for you is going to get you no where. Find out for sure what the situation is and deal with it.
2006-11-22 22:07:18 · answer #3 · answered by mirrorpuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be gay - or he may simply not be interested in you "in that way". We all like different types of folks and sadly quite often our lustful thoughts are NOT reciprocated.
Perhaps he is just saying "no" in a very gentle way ?
2006-11-22 19:01:50 · answer #4 · answered by Mark T 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I suggest you talk to him and ask him if he is gay or not. If he is gay then explain to him that you are straight, you have nothing against gay people and you want to maintain your friendship as it is.
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2006-11-22 19:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by PAXson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could be gay...my best friend is like that...Im gay and he's straight...I think its pretty cool...b/c it shows to me that he is comfortable around gay people and doesnt care what others think about him...
if he is gay...dont be a jerk about it...he'll need a friend...good luck
2006-11-22 19:04:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him you respect who he is but you are not interested.
2006-11-22 23:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by Dreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a sissy. tell him he shouldn't become a woman just because he likes men.
2006-11-22 18:59:15 · answer #8 · answered by Fabulous, young and broke! 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋