im a teen and i want a baby. what should or could i do?

Question

IM A TEEN AND I WANT A BABY. I JUST WANT A BABY BECAUSE I WANT LOVE AND I BABY HAS TOO LOVE BACK REGARDLESS. BUT MY PARENTS....WHAT WOULD THEY DO AND SAY. I HAVE A BOY IN MIND. WE BOTH WORK AN HAVE GOOD JOBS. I CAN HANDLE IT. BUT PEOPLE SAY I CANT. I DONT HAVE TO GO OUT. I WOULD LOVE TO STAY WITH MY BABY 24/7

IM ALMOST DONE WIT SCHOOL I MAKE GOOD GRADES AND EVERY THING. ITS NOT LIKE IM GOIN TO DROP OUT OR ANY THING

I DONT WANT A PUPPY I WANT SOMETHING THAT WOULD TALK AND PLAY BACK. I HAVE LOVE AND ALOT OF IT. THERE WONT BE ANY INTERFERANCE WITH SCHOOL BECAUSE IM ALMOST DONE (LIKE I SAD BEFORE) IM WITH SOME ONE WHO LOVES. I JUST LOVE THE FEELIN WHEN A BABY COMES TO ME CALLIN MY MAMMA AND NEEDS ME TO DO THINGS FOR THEM. IM UP FOR UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.

I KNOW A BABY CRIES AND I HARD ON MONEY. BUT MY MAN AND I HAVE A JOB AND MAKE GOOD MONEY. THE ONLY THING IM REALLY WORRIED ABOUT IS WHAT PEOPLE WILL THINK OF ME.

IM 16 NOW AND ABOUT TO BE 17 IN A COUPLE OF WEEKS. IM A SENIOR NOW( SKIPPED 2ND GRADE) EVERYBODY HAS HELP ME ALOT WITH THERE ANSWERS


BUT IM NOT HERE TO MAKE ANYBODY LAUGH I WANTED SOME ADVICE FROM SOME ONE..NOT FOR PEOPLE TO PUT ME DOWN.

THANK YOU ALOT

Answer 1

Sweetie-please wait until you are married or at least until you are in a stable relationship.I am a happily married mother expecting my 2nd baby this February and let me tell you-it is hard work.You are young and should not be stuck raising a child as a teen.They cost so much money-and your freedom will be all gone.Wait!

Answer 2

You might think you want a baby...but at this point in your life, its really a bad idea. You say you want somebody to love you, but a baby needs more love and care then it will be able to show you. It seems like you have a gap in your life that you think having a baby will fill, and you need to figure out what that gap is and fill it. Its just not enough to finish high school and have a job...don't you want to give your child the best? Haven't you thought about what you're going to do after high school, besides have a baby right away? You have a LONG time to have a baby! Get a life first! Sorry to be harsh...but this is just the truth. This is coming from a 19 year old college student, by the way..

Answer 3

You say that now. Baby`s are hard work! Try no sleep, not leaving the house or rarely leaving for over a month and trying to function and take care of a baby on a tiny amount of sleep. Its not easy and believe me, its not fun.
Also, do you or this guy have any plans for your future? You need to try and think responsibly (like a good parent would) and figure out how having a child would affect these plans.
You do risk ruinning the relationship with your parents by doing this. If you want a baby that badly, its a risk that you need to take. If they don`t want you in the house anymore, are you going to be able to afford another place to live? Are you ready to put the child first and yourself second, no matter what? Are you willing to drop out of school to take care of the child? Its not really fair to have someone else raise the child; not to that person, or your kid.
Also remember: they don`t stay that age forever!! The cuteness goes away fast and before you know it you`re dealing with a smart-mouth, short tempered, five year old. THey`re only little angels on TV or when strangers are watching!

I think that you need to talk to your parents, the guy and maybe a guidance councler and see if you are really ready for this. Its not just what you want, its also whats good for the child.

Answer 4

I am 22 with a 3 year old and i can promise you babies do not give love. They take it. They do not give anything whatsoever. They are just hard work constantly. No one regardless of their age realises how much hard work it is until you have to actually do it. If you are really feeling that you are that much in need of love then i dont see how you can possibly have a loving supportive bf and you definately need to be telling your parents that they are not showing their love in enough ways.

Lets face it - i dont even know why you have even put this question up because its obvious you will end up going out and getting pregnant anyway. You can come out with all the reasoning you want to make yourself feel better about a decision you know is wrong but the fact remains that if you were mature enough to have a child you wouldnt have needed to discuss this with a world of strangers, a discussion with a loving supportive partner would have been enough but you and your bf are not old enough to make this sort of decision. I really really hope that you dont end up getting pregnant just yet. 20-25 may seem years away to you now but is a much more sensible age to decide to have a child if you wish to bring one up while you are still young. Make the most of your life because YOU havent got a life anymore once you have a child. You live for them not yourself and i can promise you that that is no where near as fun and exciting as it may sound to you. I love my son with all my heart but i wish i had waited until i was older. It is so difficult EVERY single day and more often than not the bad aspects of parenting outweigh the good.

Answer 5

I am 19 years old. so i am someone that can relate to you. and let me tell you. I am happy that you want to have kids. But right now? why? I know you feel like no one loves you. so when you have a baby the baby can show you lots of love. Wanting a baby just for that reason. Is not a good one. Babies take alot of care and patience. When they cry cause there sick and you dont know what to do. and they just dont stop crying. do u feel loved then? No you will be stressed. You should Graduate High school and get a career. Thats what i am doing. so when i do have kids i can make great money. not just min. wage. job. Right now you havent lived yet. What i mean is ur living the life of ur parents. ur parents rules and more rules and school and there rules. Hell you cant even pee when you need to without a hall pass. when u finally move out and live on ur own. you are now starting ur life. time to be on ur own. and go anywhere u please with out having to worry about a babysitter. Then you can have more me time. not worry about curfew or anything because "THE ONLY ONE YOU HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT IS UR SELF" .Hang In there girl. we all sometimes feel like we are not loved enough so we go look for it. but we all have to be patient and let love find us. and when you do find it with the perfect man. you can share that love with each other. and create something that ur love and u made together a healthy baby. How wonderful is that, but wait till you grow a little. get to know urself. and enjoy life . you have plenty of time to start a family but not now enjoy being free from responsibility.

Answer 6

aw hon, you should wait! It's a hard road to travel being so young and having a baby. I would strongly recommend working on your career first. The thing is that if you spend your career building years raising a baby, what will your life be like when that baby is 14 or 15 yrs old. I can tell you from experience that it is harder to get, or even want to get a job when you have been out of the work force for a long time. I am 36 now, and I left college early to raise my son. He is now 14, and let me tell ya, the teens these days have very expensive tastes. Plus they eat a ton! I'm single, and money is tight so I can't always give him what I'd like to give him and it breaks my heart. Now I am faced with having to make a decision about getting back into school to be trained for a career, or gettin out to work. My son is troubled, and not ready for me to be away from home so much. However, I need to be working soon in order to have a decent amount of money when I retire. Do you want to be old and on welfare? You must think out the long term plan for you and your child. Build yourself a stable life so you can offer your child the world!

Answer 7

At least wait until you graduate from high school if you haven't yet and your boyfriend is your husband. If you want to go to college you should do that first. If you want to take care of babies you can volunteer in a hospital or babysit. Having a baby is a lot more then loving a helpless little human that will eventually love you back. It's a 24/7 responsibility. Having a baby really does change everything. Good luck.

Answer 8

MY STORY HAS A POINT you know I'm 17 turning 18 in January.I'm very mature for my age and have been through a lot.My boyfriend and i met about 3 1/2 years ago.I chased him we kept braking up finally we feel in love.we started living together and we did every thing together.I found out i was pregnant,i was scared but my boyfriend told me he wanted the baby, with alot of though i said OK. i already did the party thing the hang out and not care thing so i agreed to have her.when i was pregnant it was hard and he didn't under stand, i felt alone. i gave birth and i took care of her, waking up every couple hours crying and have-ting to find out why.my boyfriend being jealous that i don't have time for him but only for her.He doesn't like watching her or really dealing with her might i remind you he loves kids and he is the one that wanted her you really cant do any thing with a baby and me and my bf love each other but we fight so much more now that we have a baby. we don't have any time for each other because even when his mom takes her that's when i have to clean or take a shower or do things that need to get done.I love my daughter to death don't get me wrong i just wish i would have waited a little longer that's all because you have so much more time then now.I just hope you make the right choice because the money thing will be the least of your problems

Answer 9

I'm not saying this becuase I dont' think you're mature enough to have a baby, or anything like that. I really don't know you so this is just my general opinion.

I think you should take a while to think it out, to plan for a baby and to see if the guy you want to be the father is ready to have a baby and would help suport you and the baby. Since you would be devoting your time to the new addition to your family instead of your job. I would atleast wait till you are out of school to get pregnant though. Make sure that you're ready and make sure the guy wont just take off and leave, I would make sure you have all your [not monthly.. type] bills and such payed off till you could have more money for your child.

Answer 10

look, i dont want to put you down, i was 15 and really really wanted a baby...well after trying for a year i gave up, and then at 17 i found out i was pregnant, dont get me wrong im happy as hell, ill be having my baby in March, but come on, im not even ready and im 18 now, im scared as hell, just put it in the back of your head::

i was hospitilized 3 times for morning sickness

an average dr. visit will cost $200 dollers EACH, and depending if there are any problems, you could have 1-3 a month

PLUS, you HAVE to get blood taken and tested, which runs about $50- $100 and thats is done about 4 times throughout the pregnancy

You get about 4-5 ultrasounds which are dr. visit cost Plus technichian cost, id say about $250

the big day: delivery and hospitial stay an average of anywhere from $1500-$3000 also depending on if you need a c-section, or other complications arise

Then you need baby supplies, which just for crib, car seat and cloths run about $500

A pack of dipers that is labeld "JUMBO" (meaning a big pack) has 54 dipers...guess what? a newborn needs there diper changed at least 12 times a day, that jumbo pack of dippies...itll only last 4 and a half days

then if your bottle feeding formula is about $1500 or MORE a year, then cloths because baby grows VERY VERY fast and a new car seat (unless u got a convertable seat) a stroller, play pen because you cant always hold baby, hygene products, and etc.

not to mention follow up dr appts for YOU & BABY which in a year can total $ 3000

so your looking at $11200, for just a year, and i could be wrong, it could be more...

so unless you have that much in savings...i doubt your ready

i dont go out, but god, listen to me PLEASE

dotn get pregnant

Answer 11

Babies DO NOT have to love you back. Yes, they are little miracles, but they take and take and take for years before they are capable of giving back the love you put into them.

Please, go volunteer at your local Florence Crittenon Home or domestic violence shelter. The teenage mothers in these homes will have a lot of experience to share with you. The babies living there need a lot of attention and care.

They usually welcome volunteers (sometimes you can even do it through your school for an hour a day, if your high school has a Child Development class, talk to the teacher about a co-op class).

You have your whole life to have children, and there are presently a lot of children already out there needing love and attention. If you have love to give, think about helping out.

If you just want to be loved, get a dog.