young parent?

Question

whats wronge with having children at a young age, my boyfriend and i are in love and what to give it a try sometime soon, i'm 14 years old, and his 15 and a half years old.

Answer 1

Can you afford to put a roof over the babies head?....NO
Can you afford doctor bills?....NO
Can you afford formula and food for the baby?....NO
Can you afford clothes for the baby?....NO
Not to mention the HUGE emotional support you need to give a child....the kind of support you still need from your mommy so you are obviously not there yet.

Being a parent is full time...not something your mommy can do for you when you want to go and and be a kid....because that is what you are.

Please seek help from your parents or a trusted adult.

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with wanting those things, but you better be prepared for the resposibility of it all. Most people your age wouldn't have a clue how much is involved or how much money it takes to raise a child. Besides, your too young to truly know what you want in life. Just because you are in love doesn't mean you need to have children yet. If your love is true, it will still be there 5 years from now when you can make the choice that will benefit you and future children.

Answer 3

Because at your age your body is not prepared to carry a pregnancy and give birth. Also at your ages neither one of you are emotionally prepared, you're still in puberty and I'll bet YOU PMS really well. Then there is the financial aspect. At your ages here in the states neither one of you can have a full time job and at best would make only minimum wage at a part time job, even if BOTH of you worked that would not be enough for what is required to raise a baby let alone all of the doctor visits and hospilisation prior to and the birth of the chld. It costs thousands of dollars just gestate to full term and give birth not to mention the eighteen years after as well as college. I suggest you check out some of the college tuitions in your area then multiply them by about 7 and you will come up with the amount it will cost YOUR child for only the FIRST semester of college. Besides the taxpayers of this country are getting tired of footing the bills for all of the babies born to children who aren't emotionally or financially prepared to have them, and you would only be another couple of those, living off someone else not making your own way. Wouldn't you want MORE for your child? How can you say you love someone when you want to hold them back in a life of poverty? That's not love. That's immaturity.

Answer 4

Sweetheart you're trying to grow up to soon. You haven't lived your life yet. And I'm not saying that you don't love each other. I'm just saying that the both of you have your whole life ahead of you. Having kids means ( No more movies, going to parties, school dances,sitting around the house doing nothing, and no friends) Having kids means going to school during the day and working at night ( No college for you or him). Are you ready to pay rent for an apartment. pay bills for lights, gas. Daycare alone will kill you( about $800 a month). Are you ready to sit-up all night, because your baby is sick or just don't want to sleep. To run to the hospital at 3am, because your baby is running a temp of 103. In doing so who are you going to get to take you there. You can't drive and don't have a car and calling a cab may end up being fatal to your baby. Every second counts in getting your baby to a doctor. Once you have a baby you cannot send them back, they are here in your life until he or she turn eighteen. Kids run your life,until then. Like you run your parents life. There are things your parents want to do, but put on hold. Because they decided to have you and your siblings. Yes you are too young to have a baby. Enjoy being a kid for now. You may feel that you don't get to do a lot, because you are young. You have 4 more years, before you can start going out. Go on vacations with friends, go to college, or maybe see the world and see what it has to offer you. You need money to raise kids and you need an education to get money. Burger King and Wendy's will not help you give your child the best you want it to have.

Answer 5

honestly honey if I were you I would wait. There is so much you need to do first. Once you have a baby your life changes completely. Believe me this is coming from a 22 year old that has had a baby at an early age. I had my daughter when I was 15 and I wasn't even out of school yet. Now I wish I would of waited because I didn't get to do most things that most teenagers do. I had to grow up fast and become a parent instead of being free and able to finish my teenage years.

Answer 6

Well, let’s start with the fact that you’re below the age of sexual consent in every state. It’s illegal for you to have sex. No sex=no baby.

Then we’ll add lack of education. At best, you’ve barely started high school. Lack of education makes it very difficult to get a job that pays enough to actually live on. Plus, you can’t even drive. How are you going to get your child to doctor appointments and such? Depend on others, I’m sure, but is it their responsibility? Of course not. Then, there’s the fact that you’re not financially capable of providing for a child. If you work then it’s only for a few hours a day (child labor laws and all that) and it’s likely minimum wage which certainly isn’t enough to support a child. It wouldn’t even be enough to pay for day care while you attend school. But maybe you’re depending on your parents to provide daycare for you, or maybe even the taxpayers. And you’re right back to the fact that it’s YOUR responsibility to provide for your child, not anyone elses. And last but not least, you’re not mature enough to handle parenting, and please don’t tell how much more mature you are than everyone else your age…no 14-year-old is emotionally ready to be a parent.

Grow up, finish school, become financially stable, and THEN have a child.

Answer 7

THAT IS SICK! my friend's mom was 18 when she had her and she still to this day says that it was a BIG mistake. You will regret doing that when you are older because you will want to go party, hang out with friends, go to the mall, or go to a bar NO MORE CLUBS your ife will be a mess, you cant do anything with a baby in your arms, it would be different if you were about 20 and married, chances are, your boyfriend will dump you if you have a baby because it is too much of a hardship for him. Take my advice DO NOT have a kid at such a young age.

Answer 8

If you are going to have sex then thats your choice but having a child at 14 and 15 is not a wise choice. You can not even drive nor vote or even get into a club if you wanted to. Are you willing to give up your childhood for you childs are willing to take things that you want and put your child's want before yours. Can you provide the kind of needs that a baby needs like clothes food shelter. Do you want that kind of life living from paycheck to paycheck because you don't have a college education or even a hs diploma? I would really think about any choices that you are wanting to make and talk to your parents are any adult

Answer 9

The fact that you don't know what is wrong with it just proves that you are too young and un-knowledgeable to have a child. What kind of job is he going to get without a high college degree much less a high school diploma? How are you going to support this child? What is going to happen when the newness and excitement of having a baby wears off, and you want to just have fun like the rest of your friends? I really think you lack the ability to see the long term consequences of having a child, and that is why having one would be wrong.

Answer 10

Baby what i got to say is that you got a whole life right now and with a baby you lose your life and you have to give up all your freedom to your child I cant tell you what to do cuz you got your own life to live. Im 14 too I dont want a child til i know im in college and got thre means to take care of it
It aint nothin wrong if you got a baby but it put a hold on your life and your baby comes first not you or your boyfriend but you baby
and you have to realize what means to have a baby
and if you preganant you love your baby and listen to all the haters and people who think yo life gonna be bad cuz you got baby

Much luv
Quita

Answer 11

Do me a favor, copy this question down. Frame it and in 2-3 years, you answer the question. You will realize what a foolish question this was. You and your boyfriend have just ruined 3 lives for the sake of what? A little sexual fulfillment. Congratulations, on the first of a long line of MONSTER big mistakes! I pity what you and he will become. You want advice? Go home to your parents, do everything they say because you don't have even the slightest amount of wisdom needed to sustain your future child.