husband worries?

Question

my husband emailed an old girlfriend and they were getting cozy but he ended it i would like to trust him again but how would i know he is being truthful? he has been very sincere towards our marriage i hope i am not getting looped again

Answer 1

when they contact their ex's, i feel that it underminds our relationship... i would trust him and hope that he doesn't prove you wrong...

Answer 2

Why do you say "hope l am not getting looped again" ? Has your husband done this sort of thing before ? If the answer is yes, well then l would say you have a communication problem. Why do you think he emailed an old girlfriend ? Were you two having problems ? Not that l believe it makes it right ofcourse but it could be one of the reasons. My husband and l were having serious communication problems( he would not open up about anything) and believe me it really makes a marriage difficult as we cannot read each others minds unfortunately. He eventually cheated and l was left in the dark until a few years later. He said he was confused and thought our marriage was over. If we had only communicated better none of it would have happened. We are great now( yes l forgave him) mind you though l would not be so eager to forgive if it ever happened again. In my heart l am sure he would never do it to me again. You just have to build up your trust again if you want your marriage to work. Speak to your husband and tell him exactly how you feel, you said that he has been very sincere about your marriage. Well that is a very good start. Believe me unless you can learn to trust him again, you will drive yourself crazy. Having said all that , remember honesty is always the best policy and communication is a must if you want your marriage to survive. Best of luck with everything.

Answer 3

I always say you trust someone until they give you a reason not to.

This might be a reason to have your eyes open a little bit more but I don't know that I would not trust him. I think if he came to you that was probably a hard thing to do. I would demand some things though...like maybe a marriage therapist to talk about yours and his feelings towards your marriage. If he admitted to getting "cozy" something had to make him willing to keep it up with this girl...need to find out what is going on in his head so you know where you stand and how to proceed from here.

Answer 4

I would hope you're not, either. If your marriage is good all the way around than there is nobody, ex or new, that could cause your husband to stray. If there are issues, talked about or not, than the door is open if someone else fills those needs within him. People don't look outside their marriage if their needs are being met within it, emotional or sexual.

Basically, affairs are about getting needs met that are not being met within the marriage or relationship - emotional or sexual Affairs are seldom just about sex, even when they are just sex. This is usually because they aren't getting enough at home which is usually a symptom of other problems in the relationship. Affairs are many times emotional which leads to sex between them.

If you feel there are underlying issues that may cause him to stray it is best to confront and solve them now. A strong marriage can survive any onslaught from anybody, even an ex.

Answer 5

You can't know for sure if he is truthful or not. None of us can ever be absolutely certain, we can only go by our feelings and how the other person has behaved and is behaving.
I'm glad he ended the coziness because you didn't deserve to be kept in the dark. I hope he is sincere and that all will work out for you guys.

Answer 6

I think you have to do what is right in your heart. If trust is always going to be an issue now, than maybe you might consider ending the relationship. Or on the other hand you can consider counseling to find out why this happen in the first place and if you can ever trust him again and what broke down the marriage in the first place.

Answer 7

He's looking for a little excitement again. Sounds like the spice cabinet is low OR empty. Time to restock the shelves with some fresh material. It may be time for some not so 'strange tail' to boost the male ego. Do your homework, or let him play. If his still taking care of the family needs why sweat it. He'll see it really isn't so bad and the 'grass is not greener on the other side'.
You could try inviting her over for a round, that may cure him!

Answer 8

My son is 7 a million/2 months and shakes his head "NO" too! i assumed it became into humorous and lovable.. and problematical while i'm attempting to feed him haha He has been dealing with slightly the place he basically eats some bites of solids at each and every meal, so his new element is to take some bites, then shake his head no while the spoon gets close! i've got in no way taught him this and only assumed that it became right into a organic element to learn.. he's my first, so I even have no longer something to learn too. Neither myself or his Daddy are stressful (I in no way even seen taking him to a DR). i pass to observe your question nonetheless and notice what others say, yet i assume it is common and no reason for problem!!

Answer 9

first how did you know he was emailing her? I can actually say I know how you feel. It has taken me a long time (about 2 yrs) to get back to trusting mine. We had to do a lot of talking and sometimes he didnt want to, but it is something you have to work through and it takes 2. There shouldnt be any secrets when you're married and thats what I told mine. Good luck

Answer 10

Dear, in some degree, it was not easy to rebuild trust in your husband. I see you still love your husband, so you 'd better to leave all past behind you. You need more time to work it out. Weeks or months later, if you find you still feel jealouse or anger about the past, or what your husband does within this period, I think then you need to make right choice - to get help outside or get rid of your bad situation. Be happy!

Answer 11

If he's sincere, ask he'll do whatever it takes for you to feel secure again in your marriage. You decide what that is. If it's him giving you his password or somehow being more open then so be it. If he hesitates to do what you ask, he may still be hiding things and not ready to give up what he's started.