Never see my friends...?

Question

I never see my friends anymore.

It's all because I went to college early (Which I do not regret!). Sure, I've met a lot of great people there, but new friendships are really tough to keep strong when you're a commuter who can't drive. And even though I still live near my high school friends, they all seem way too busy to ever hang out anymore. All I have is my boyfriend and my parents... Anyone else in a similar situation? Should I wait it out or force my friends to take time out of their busy schedules to see me?

Answer 1

Have you told them how you feel? If they are your true friends, and they know that you feel alone, then they will make time for you! Tell them that you hate sounding like your complaining, but you miss them and you want to talk.

Hopefully they will understand. If they don't they might not be true friends after all =(

Good luck!

Answer 2

I am sort of in the same situation. I am at uni, i dont commute but i am at home about 3 - 4 days a week. I also have a job at uni and have to do some work at some pt, so rarely have a chance to go out with friends.I love my bf, but just feel like sometimes im wasting my uni time and i wish i cud be with my friends.Id say dont do it every week, but go out say once every couple of months and stay over a mates on their sofa or floor or whatever at a weekend with ur uni mates, and itll keep ur friendships going. Also it wouldnt hurt ur mates at uni to go out to lunch with u when u have an hour free? Ur friends cant be busy ALL the time, just work it round them... good luck!

Answer 3

You should plan a get together; or a party of some sort and invite everyone. That way its no pressure. And do it often so that if someone misses the first one, they can come to another one. If they are too busy to come see you then maybe they have moved on and its no longer a friendship and more of an acquantance thing.

Answer 4

Sometimes you have to reestablish your relationship even with best friends.

I have a career that awards me the opportunity to travel around the world and there are times when I can be gone as long as a year. When I get back I have to reconnect. It can take time.

Worst case scenerio, one or two of them could be jealous of you. You went off to school they stayed home. Your experienced life and they have not. It is something to consider and like I said, a worse case scenerio.

Answer 5

TAKE A PEICE OF ADVISE FROM SOMEONE WHO KNOWS,TRUE FRIENDS WILL ALWAYS BE THERE FOR YOU.IF YOU HAVE SO CALLED FRIENDS WHO DON'T HAVE TIME FOR YOU OR "SO THEY SAY" THEN THEY AREN'T YOUR FRIENDS.AS WE GET OLDER WE ALL GO THROUGH GROWING PAINS, SOME OF IT GOOD AND SOME BAD.THIS LEADS US DOWN DIFFERENT PATHS IN LIFE,SOMETIMES YOU MAY NOT GET THERE BY THE SAME ROUTE BUT IF BY CHANCE YOU HAPPEN TO MEET UP AGAIN,THEN IT'S A WONDERFUL THING.THOSE ARE THE FRIENDS YOU WANT TO KEEP WITH YOU.ONLY TIME WILL TELL WHO YOU REAL "BUDDIES" ARE. IN THE MEANTIME STICK TO YOUR STUDIES AND THOSE THAT "DO" WANT TO BE AROUND YOU.