I lived in Florida, and I had a boyfriend, Keith. I ended up moving with him to Panama City Beach and we had an apartment together and stuff. We were together for about 2 years. We were pretty serious and talked a lot about getting married and having a family some day.
We broke up not too long after I moved back home to California and I haven't spoken to him for almost exactly two years (kind of a bad breakup). I looked him up on MySpace and although his profile is set to private, I can see his sexual orientation is gay.
I can't say that I am super shocked because there were times during our relationship that I sometimes wondered if he might at least be a little curious but I am still shocked.
I guess I am kind of struggling with the fact that if he was gay does that mean he was never IN love with me? I know he loved me but was the 2 years that we were together absolutely nothing but a friendship with occasional sex?
Can someone explain what he was and is going through?
2006-11-22 10:16:05 · 5 answers · asked by melspags6 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Wow. What a shock to have to go through.
Sounds like he is just starting to accept his own reality that he is gay. He may have thought that you two living together would be ideal, and I'm sure he had or maybe even still has feelings for you, but is attracted to men. It happens and sometimes people don't come within the realization of it until a long time aftwards.
And yes, you can be gay and in love with someone, but you also know that the relationship may not be for you. People like this can be confused for a long time since they may not know which direction to go to. Do they stay in what society terms a "normal" relationship, or do they risk ridicule and go with their real insterest, which is the same sex. Tough world we live in.
2006-11-22 10:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by Voice 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only he could really tell you what was going through his mind at that time. Odds are he in the closet, denying his sexuality and pretending to be straight because that was what was expected of him. People try to force people to be straight, and it just ends up causing more heartache. Either that or he could have been confused himself and not know if he was straight, gay, gay or bi.
2006-11-22 20:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say he was not happy to have gay feelings and he really did try to make his (and your) life as 'normal' as possible but he wanted another man. Thus the occasional sex. He did try and I think you would be more comfortable knowing that he chose you to try that with, but, he couldn't do it and knew he had to leave.
2006-11-22 18:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by loose_canadian 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
he could be bi. or he could have been confused about his feeling and sexuality, but was in love with you, then finally relized he liked guys more.
2006-11-22 20:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, you lived with him for two years, so if you dunno what was going on, guess us!....anyway, move on....
2006-11-22 18:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by Fabulous, young and broke! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋