If you are in love with some one, can that ever really go away? Anyone who has gotten divorced, do you really, honestly, in your heart hate your ex spouse. The one who you promised to share your life with?
2006-11-22 09:34:59 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think you can ever stop loving the person they were, but the person they are now.... .....well, that's a different story!
2006-11-22 09:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by chromecranium 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't hate my ex-spouse. Never have hated him. I accepted our split-up, and moved on. Yes, you do REALLY stop loving someone after a while if you truly "move on" to other things. It just becomes irrelevant. Remember this brightly-colored candy bar your mom didn't buy you at the checkout stand when you were five? At the time, it probably seemed like the end of the world. But do you feel the same about it now? I think not. Doesn't mean you don't eat candy bars anymore, it's just not as important or relevant.
2006-11-22 17:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think u can stop loving someone,depends on the circumstances of why u divorced. as for hate, u may hate them for awhile, but as time passes it sort of doesn't even matter anymore. hate requires too much energy, and makes u miserable. after awhile u get on with your new life, your new love, and all is well, and u actually feel a bit guilty that u aren't hurting over it anymore, and u are happy it happened. yes the love does go away, because sometimes the circumstances of the divorce were so horrific, and u were in love with the person u thought they were, and than u realiaze they were never that person. has alot to do with why you got divorced as to if u still love them.
2006-11-22 22:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did promise to share my life with my ex husband but we grew apart and i really grew tired of listening to all the promises and lies. We do not speak to each other because we have nothing to talk about and there is no love or hate between us anymore just two people who drifted apart and have moved on they say there is a thin line between love and hate and i had reached that line and just didn't cross it. I am today a much happier person who made a mistake.
2006-11-22 20:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can. I decided that my ex spouse was basically toxic and left and got divorced. I have no feelings about him and have not seen him in years, have no desire to see him or even hear of him. My family and friends were very happy when I divorced him and I was overjoyed and relieved. Promises, in my opinion are rightfully nullified when a spouse does not fulfill their role in a marriage. Happens in Islam, Christianity and Judiasm all the time.
2006-11-23 01:24:30 · answer #5 · answered by ValleyViolet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. I am 46 years old and have been in love a few times; married, divorced, and remarried. I don't feel any love for my old boyfriends or my ex-husband anymore. I don't hate them, either. I've just moved on. Each time I've had to move on, I've felt like I could never stop loving them, and it has always taken some time, but I always get over it.
2006-11-22 23:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinion is that it's definitely possible to stop actually being in love with someone but I'd like to think that love remains in a different form. Whether you can hate someone you once loved would depend on the circumstances and the type of person you are yourself. I personally couldn't hate my worst enemy...much less someone I was in love with so I think it's something which can't be generalised. It just depends on the circumstances and the person.
2006-11-22 17:43:27 · answer #7 · answered by chezzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't hate my ex. But the opposite of love is not hate. It is indifference. I don't love him anymore. I did love him for a long time. But a person can do and say things to you that gradually kill your love for him or her. Yes, I made a promise that I could not keep, but neither one of us is the same person that we were 16 yrs. ago. Love can die. Believe it.
2006-11-22 17:43:17 · answer #8 · answered by Beth T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's possible. I've never been divorced but when I was single, I was involved with someone whom I was in love with but who broke my trust at the end. Needless to say, love just flies out the window.
2006-11-22 17:42:33 · answer #9 · answered by jdhs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can stop lloving someone it doesnt mean that you hate them, it just means that your relationship has turned to a different level and sometimes the pains of the relationship make it impossible to truely love them like you once promised. i know i loved a man for 12 yrs and the pain has destroyed the love.
2006-11-24 19:22:10 · answer #10 · answered by kittykitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that can go away, but everything has a reason. A change in behavior, in dealing, also some circumstancec might push you to hate each other
Becarefull!!!
2006-11-22 17:58:37 · answer #11 · answered by hopeamel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋