Okay my fiance left me 2 weeks ago for a 19 year old coworker I am 22 he is 24. His parents were very supportive of me or so I thought. They said his new girl is not allowed near their house and they didn't want her around my kids. i totally agree it is way too soon, well they invited me over for thanksgiving dinner. But today my ex told me that his new girl will be there because his dad invited her after inviting me and telling me that she was not allowed there. Should I let my kids go? I am very very upset about this and the kids have other places that we can have dinner at. what should I do?
2006-11-22 09:34:19 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he never calls for the kids ever he always has some excuse
2006-11-22 09:37:06 · update #1
screw them, dont go
2006-11-22 09:36:37 · answer #1 · answered by Dark Angel 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do I understand that "THE KIDS" are the result of his and your affections? Or are they just yours? I'm going under the first assumption. Personally I would take the kids else where, or run real quick and get the fixings for your own thanksgiving meal. I would definitely call your fiances parents and decline the invitation with the excuse that his temporary partner is going to be there. It would be too difficult for the children to know that everyone condones this treachery. And let them know that until he gets the itch taken care of that's in his pants, you won't be over while he or she is there, ever! Just wondering, did you have any idea this was going on or was he a complete jerk and had an affair?
2006-11-22 17:49:06 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your fiance the father of your children? I say, give the entire family a wide berth. You said you had other places to go for Thanksgiving dinner. I suggest you rsvp to those quickly. As for your ex's family, how is it that you overlooked the fact that your ex and his new fling would not be there? Whether or not your competition would be there, it seems you would be a glutton for punishment just having to be at the same table with your ex.
Summary: You should be with your kids and away from this family.
2006-11-22 17:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by Finnegan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's too soon, in my opinion.
I would call his parents and graceful decline their offer (and don't be afraid to tell them why!!), and spend Thanksgiving elsewhere.
It is not appropriate for children to meet someone their father has been dating for only a few weeks, nor is it likely that the 19yr old and the father are going to live happily ever after, so exposing the kids early on to a relationship that might not last more than a few months seems ridiculous.
Thanksgiving is about being thankful for the blessings in your life and celebrating those blessings - it seems inappropriate to be celebrating your blessings with your ex's homewrecking girlfriend.
2006-11-22 17:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by Skye 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think, in this situation I would take my kids other places. The pain and humiliation is way too fresh right now, and it would probably be better if you avoided the reminders of this trauma, including having your kids socialize with "her". Perhaps, as time goes by, it will get easier - but right now I think it would be too hard on you and the kids. Have your Thanksgiving elsewhere; try to have fun.
It's sad that his parents exercised such poor judgement in issuing their holiday invitations.
2006-11-22 17:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go do my own thing. If he doesn't even call to see how they are or want to see them, then why should he look like he's the best dad? Tell him or his parents thank you for the invitation, but I already made other plans. I'm sorry what a butt munch!!!! You will find someone better!! Good luck and happy holidays!!
2006-11-22 17:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by mamaof2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No don't go and keep the kids if not it will definitely turn into a tug o war for the kids and instead of dessert there will be a boxing match between you and the " co-worker" ... man that's ruthless!
Hang in there chica!
2006-11-22 18:14:14 · answer #7 · answered by jmilil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fast decisive action needed on your part here: Get the kids and put distance between you three and this sick sick family. If he comes after you see a lawyer about visitation rights and a restraining order. Your BF is sick and his family supports him (though they also seem to like the grandkids). No win for you and them to stay around. Best of luck.
2006-11-22 17:48:19 · answer #8 · answered by David W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. No no no. He has ruined your family and to expect everyone to show up and pretend to be happy is just sick.
You'd better get in touch with a lawyer about visitation rights.
Well I suppose you COULD go and embarrass him in front of everyone. Ask how her pu s y feels. Ask him if he likes ditching his responsibilities. Ask her if she likes the idea that her new boyfriend displays this kind of character.
Expose him for the jerk he is. Your kids are too young to understand or remember so don't worry about them.
2006-11-22 17:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let the kids decide. if they are old enough to comprehend the situation they should have a say in it. If not, I would find somewhere else to go. seriously, how akward will it be when your ex is forced to sit through a meal with you and his new girl?
2006-11-22 17:55:43 · answer #10 · answered by cyber_music 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't let my kids go. Only because this is still too fresh for them. What's it going to do to them to see your ex with another girl? And who knows how they are going to behave, meaning are they going to be sucking face in front of your kids?
Spend the time with your kids.
2006-11-22 17:47:33 · answer #11 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋