I want to go to my friends house for Thanksgiving & my husband is at work until 7 pm. My in laws think I'm being an a@# but I just want to do something different & be around someone I enjoy being around. They have tried to talk my kids in staying with them that day instead of going with me.I'm going to their house but it will be after I get back from my freinds house. I'm not even going to my mom's house cause I just wanted something different this holiday. What is the big deal?
2006-11-22 09:01:59 · 8 answers · asked by "karma" 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
One important key to me wanting to go my freinds house is that my in laws don't like me & I have spent the last 15 years being insulted every holiday & I'm sick of it. Now it's time for me . they live 2 minutes away & we never see them unless they beep as they go by our house.
2006-11-22 09:09:53 · update #1
Do what is going to make you happy. Who wants to be miserable on a holiday? There is no law saying you can't spend it with whomever you want even if it ain't family. Happy thanksgiving!
2006-11-22 09:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone has different opinions about what the holidays mean and how they should be spent. I think you should do what makes you happy, but try to be gentle with the in-laws as you tell them of your alternate plans and remind them you're looking forward to seeing them and spending time with them later. Let them know how special this friend is and that it's important to that friend and you that you spend some of the holiday together. Good luck! PS. Have you discussed with your husband? Might want to get his buy-in so you have some support, or if he won't support it, at least don't let him be blindsided by not knowing what you're planning to do.
2006-11-22 17:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by Kimmyq 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People put to much emphasis on these holidays, they need to be close to family every day or at least once a week and have a dinner and be thankful. One of my eldest four sons is having Thanksgiving dinner at his friends, brothers house, the brothers wife is cooking her first Thanksgiving dinner. I don't mind at all, we have Sunday dinners together every week. And sometimes you just want to do something different. Hang out with your girlfriend and have some fun girl. Don't feel guilty. God bless****
2006-11-22 17:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might be because they miss the kids, but either way just let them know that you have solid reasons, which you don't have to explain to them. You are planning on attending, but not for the whole day. You love them and will plan a day for the kids to visit for the whole day but this isyour choice and you get to make it. Your husband is alright with it and your both happy about your life together. End of Story and if they still have a problem...their problem not yours...
2006-11-22 17:08:11 · answer #4 · answered by espressoaddict22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As an adullt it is your option to spend Thanksgiving or any other holiday with whom you choose. You should however consider the feelings of your in laws and children, traditionally holidays are spent with family but it is your choice to do as you please.
2006-11-22 17:06:45 · answer #5 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thanksgiving is about family, period, and freinds who have no family, or are otherwise spending Thanksgiving alone. Do the rules, your inlaws are correct, and..........you are teaching your children how to treat you in 20 years!!!!
2006-11-22 17:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your kids want to go to you in laws let them, but if you want to go to your friends, I would go.
2006-11-22 17:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by lilmama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
family is about obligation, not what you want
when you partents stayed up night after night rather than enjoying them self do you think that was right?
your asked to attend birthdays, xmas and thanksgivings less than a week out of 52
what is wrong is that your being selfish
2006-11-22 17:04:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋