I've just taken over a new job and have to manage a girl who i've been mates with for a couple of years - I want to continue to be a friend, develop our friendship more and maintain a distance between our work lives and friendship ; is it possible or too much to ask?
2006-11-22 09:01:34 · 13 answers · asked by Ethereal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Be professional she should respect that
2006-11-22 09:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was friends as well as a boss to many people and I just told them straight up that what happened at work had nothing to do with how I felt about them personally. I as well as they had a job to do and there would not and could not be any preferential treatment. And if they didn't think they could handle that then maybe they should put in for a transfer or find a new job.
2006-11-22 17:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by Just Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a long standing mate as my boss and could not take him serious. It caused big rows at work but still used to go out for a beer often. You both have to agree to keep work and friendship seperate. It ain't worth falling out over a job.
2006-11-22 19:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by evs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is possible... i have been in this situation, you have to gain her respect as a fellow worker as much as a boss...probably you already have this...everything else falls into place if you both respect each others roles..every employee needs a boss and every boss needs employees..you dont need to go out of your way to prove you are in charge that will come naturally through your leadership skills, which you must have if youve been promoted. I would suggest that if problems do arise you speak to each other as mates,good friends can take this.good luck and just tread gently.
2006-11-22 18:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by slsvenus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most manages would say it's imposable, but if your friend is your only report and she's OK at her job, then the relationship could exist on a team basis rather than boss-worker one.
2006-11-22 17:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by Avon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its possible to have both that is if your friend understands that what happends in work stays in work i had a few mates who where bosses and they told me strate when i had a writen warning that I'm not bollocking you the company is don't take it out on me I'm just doing my job. and i was ok with it and i never expected special treatment eather cause i new the boss well.he did his job i did mine and went to the pub after.
2006-11-23 11:03:29 · answer #6 · answered by dragontears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend is my boss as well so we never interfere the work with our friendship. he might yell at me at work (and I can take that) but in a pub we are the same good friends as we`ve been for 15 years
2006-11-22 22:42:08 · answer #7 · answered by tfrosts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a mutual agreement. keep work at work, and the rest outside of work.
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2006-11-22 17:14:30 · answer #8 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont. If your too friendly , they'll take advantage of you. Make sure they dont mistake kindness for weakness.
2006-11-22 17:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by joecosgrave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SORRY IT JUST WONT WORK TALKING FROM EXPERIENCE AND I WAS NOT THE BOSS
2006-11-22 17:16:54 · answer #10 · answered by stirling silver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋