i dont like them they dont like me, id rather go to my families, my wife dont want to attend, who has to bend, we also have 2 kids, so who should have to bend
2006-11-22 08:58:30 · 15 answers · asked by michaelsexton1984 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If both families live close, go to one house for dinner and the other for dessert.
If they are in differant states, switch every other year. One year go to her families and the next year go to yours.
2006-11-22 09:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely.This is just one of the many things I hate about these freakin' holidays.Why do we have to get together with family;with people who you don't want to be with?
Why,oh why, are we forced .Well I didn't.
Many years ago when my kids were young we ALWAYS went to my sister-in laws house for thanksgiving AND christmas.They were fairly nice to me but I was never in their "social circle". Told my wife I can't do that crap any longer.I can't be a hypocrite. Stayed home by myself and loved it.I felt so much better after that.My wife went with the kids.
She agreed with me after that.
Don't bend,sir, and you will be proud of yourself.We only go around once,so enjoy !
2006-11-22 18:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't care if it was the last day on earth, but there's no way I'm ever going to sit down for a meal with my in-laws...much less ever walk a step into their house. I couldn't sit at the same table with such 2 faced people and be able to keep my meal down.
What do I do? I let my husband take the kids over. Then when they return, we have some pie and nice conversation.
2006-11-22 17:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am soooooooo glad that I don't have to deal with that anymore!
Tough question. How about you go to both places? Decide on an amount of time to spend at each and then go to the next.
Flip a coin as to who you go to first. Voila` problem solved!
Happy Thanksgiving!
2006-11-22 17:02:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. I don't like my in-laws and they don't like me. My husband doesn't like my family and they don't like him. We have arranged it that our families each get a different night for dinners, and alternate each year who gets the actual holiday. And we both go to both of them with our kids. We act civilized and don't jump when the in-laws try to bait us into a conflict. It teaches your children how to be tolerant of other people and it is the right thing to do for your spouse.
2006-11-22 17:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by Jane S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her go to her family and you go to yours. This holiday let her take the kids and next time you take them. You could stay home and have your own dinner and have all of them there. Or you yourself can go to a shelter and volunteer to help feed the homeless.
2006-11-22 17:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can. If you don't like them then it would not be fair to yourself if you spend the day of the year that you are supposed to be thankful with people you don't even care to be around. If it were me, I would go to my own family's house and let her go to hers and let the kids decide which one they want to go to. Thanksgiving is not about having a miserable day it's about counting your blessings. Good Luck!
2006-11-22 17:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since the two of you seem to be pretty selfish and petty I suggest you have Thanksgiving dinner in your own home. That way the rest can enjoy their holiday.
2006-11-22 19:44:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is ok to go to each of your own families homes for the holiday. there is no law saying you HAVE to spend it together. Its nice to but you dont have to. Then just ask the kids (If they are old enough) where they would like to go...with mom or with dad.
2006-11-22 17:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't go to mine... They are my husbands family.. He can go... I don't like all the brothers, wives and the loud idiotic children running everywhere screaming and no one telling to shut the hell up !!
Your wife should go to her family and you should go to yours. Ask the kids where they prefer to go and go from there.
This shouldn't be such a stressful time of year... everyone should simply do what makes THEMSELVES happy and leave everyone else out of it !!
2006-11-22 17:17:15 · answer #10 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋