I'm in my second year of undergrad right now and I've come to the point where I recognize I'm gay (I have also never been in an relationship, heterosexual or same-sex).
My severely homophobic parents currently cover most of my tuition and r&b. Because of my parents’ finances, I don't qualify for much financial aid (around 10% max of cost, often in loans). I have a few small jobs right now, not enough to live off of or pay for any decent school.
Should I just keep my mouth shut for 2.5 more years and then tell them when I get into a law school (I’d get financial aid at that point)? One or two of my really close friends at college already know and they’re being supportive (my college is also extremely gay-friendly) of sexuality although they tell me I should probably just keep my parents in the dark for now.
Also, is there anything I can do to make myself feel more comfortable with my sexual preferences w/o being so public to the point where my parents might hear of it? Tnxs.
2006-11-22 08:40:32 · 6 answers · asked by Target Acquired 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Enjoy college and keep your mouth shut. What happens in college stays in college. Just don't make any of your friends or future ex-bfs mad enough that they would tell your parents.
2006-11-22 08:49:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents are severely homophobic, they deserve paying for your education before they find out you're gay. I say keep quiet about it.
2006-11-22 17:20:35 · answer #2 · answered by Throbington Steifenholz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but if they are paying your way wait until they are not ,so you don't get stuck with the short end of the stick.
You don't want to have to deal with the stress of your parents and financial stress .
I think its better to wait.
Good luck.
2006-11-22 17:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by free_style_forever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I feel so sorry for you for all the pressure you must be under. Honestly I can't give you advice that you might take & then sleep soundly at night wondering if it was right. Please let me know the outcome & good luck
2006-11-22 17:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not jeopardize your education. You'll have many more options open to you with a degree under your belt.
2006-11-22 17:09:48 · answer #5 · answered by lcraesharbor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey just wanted to say I understand the whole not knowing who to tell and worrying about your parents. I would suggest just trying to keep it in the closet to your parents I know how you feel about how you feel like you have a responsability to tell them. If you can wait and if you can't well then I would recommend
http://www.outproud.org/brochure_coming_out.html
http://www.psychpage.com/learning/library/gay/outparents.html
http://www.ehow.com/how_17146_come-parents.html
And just tell them really that this is who you are and you are proud of it. Congrats on getting into a good open college and I hope that the rest of your life works out for you and if you want to be open to the people around you first open up as you said to your really close friends and tell people when you open up that your parents don't know and when *not if* you get into a relationship with another young man tell him from the get go that this relationship can't be open to your parents
2006-11-22 16:53:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋