you find that your husbend is gay and u have a 3 children from him !!
2006-11-22 08:31:08 · 13 answers · asked by X-Ray X 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just move on..... accept him and move on and know that he made that choice... not you
2006-11-22 08:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to a great friend of mine also 3 kids. Her husband suddenly announced he was gay and had a whole string of gay lovers shortly after. Destroyed her almost completely, until she found out he had changed the medication he was taking for his liver condition (prednisone) and this can apparently cause extreme depression and erratic behaviour.
Believe it or not, they are still together. It's been 3 years and she says it is completely behind them. Scary. The fix in his meds fixed him back.
Totally true - I swear. Although he might relapse some day - chance she has chosen to take.
Oh by the way yes he was tested they are both clean.
2006-11-22 16:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, well the only thing you an do is let him be with who he wants to be with, it is life and obviously he is not happy with woman, why he would bring three kids into the world is beyond me but hey there is nothing wrong with him being gay. Just explain it to the kids in a nice way and then start the paper work for the divorce
2006-11-22 16:48:32 · answer #3 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Is this your hunch or have you sat and talked with him about it?
2. If you have both talked about it, then you need to pull up your mommy pants and do what is right by you and the kids.
(i) Inspect your financial status.
(ii) Inspect your job skills
(iii) Secure yourself financially and emotionally (go to therapy if required. Its ok to seek help!)
(iv) Be strong so your kids can depend on one parent atleast! Be the dependent one!
(v) Assure the kids that you are there for them. Ask your spouse to explain his stand- as a father and a gay man, to them. You need not interfere in this.
(vi) Be strong and get some good friends/family support.
(vii) Let the man go. If he stays, you will both be miserable.
Remember, if he can find another man, so can you!
Goodluck and keep the chin up!
2006-11-22 16:39:05 · answer #4 · answered by sadsmile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats hard. you shouldnt stay with him but allow him to have visitation rights for ur three kids. if you love him, im sorry to say, u need to move on because oviously there is no physical or mental attraction from ur husband and u need to be with someone you love and that loves u equally.
2006-11-22 16:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
II would get rid of him as soon as possible,you don't know who he's been messing around with,what if he were to give you aids
take your children and move on
good luck
2006-11-22 19:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by msalb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a devorce not Because your mad but so he can get married to a guy that he likes. But he should have weekends with the kids too.
2006-11-22 16:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by Dog_Lover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find him a boyfriend and keep him around so you have someone to shop with. Don't take it personally.
2006-11-22 16:37:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you don't have to freak out and you just have to continue and see your husband as your friend and not like an abnormal person!! make you can divorce and just try to make your life again!!
2006-11-22 16:34:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose you should wish him well, and get divorced. Sad, but marriage requires straight people.
2006-11-22 16:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best you can
he will want a boyfriend
you probably will too
make sure he kids are well cared for
explain it the best you can
2006-11-22 16:34:05 · answer #11 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋