can u force a child..........?

Question

My ex has a contact order with my son, for nearly 2 yrs now. My son was 2 then and was reluctant to go, but i forced him as my solicitor told me to. The contact was in a contact centre now it's unsupervised for 3 hours. My son is nearly 4 now and does not want to go and cries when he has contact. Now my solicitor says to me i have to just take him and hand him over to his father even if he cries and screams, now is that fair? Don't we all have rights to do what we want to do and not be forced into doing something we don't? I have no one to help me and i want to know is this right? Do i have to force my child to go to someone he doesn't even know that's his father because he never saw him before this contact started? There is no love and affection from my ex, there is no strong bond, my son comes home being very tired hungry and irritated from contact and it's emotionally upsetting for me and my son. Can i ask the judge to dismiss contact? Please can someone help me. Thank you

p.s. this is my brother's account which i am using, don't get confused. thnx

The other thing is my ex is still illegal in UK he has no stay, so i think he is just using contact in order to stay in this country, he really doesn't care about the child but i don't think the court will see this as he travels a distance to see his son.

Answer 1

i so feel for you, best bet is to go back to the courts and ask for a child welfare assessment..........that way they will talk to you, talk to him [the father] and talk to the child as best as he can.........at the best they might even come and observe a hand over from you to the dad............state that it is NOT your intention to keep them apart but the emotional trauma you have to deal with taking him and then the aftermath of the child being so upset is really not worth it.................just a question but WHY was they supervised at first and who decided that should change ???

Answer 2

I am so sorry for your anguish. Thoroughly document everything. Your sons demeanor and appearance and attitudes before he goes, when he is dropped off, and when he returns. At very least I would think perhaps they would revert back to supervised visits. By all means keep fighting for your sons rights. Unfortunately, you will probably have to jump through hoops and abide by due process. Why does the father see him anyways? Doesnt' sound like he gives two hoots. If you asked him to suspend visits temporarily, would he?? Or does he do all of this out of spite. Get on the phone and make some noise. Start the process for both of your sakes. Best of luck to you.

Answer 3

Yes I am afraid you do have to make him go. You can petition the court to change the visitation but it might backfire and give him more time with your child. The best you can do is to work with your child so he can go without the turmoil. Tell him that when he returns you two can do something fun together. Encourage him to talk to his Dad and spend the time learning about him so he wont be so scared. Talk to your ex (if possible) and encourage him to really get to know the child so it will be easier on everyone.

Answer 4

Yes, u can ask the 'judge' to dismiss the contact order with enough proof. But if what u say is true, your ex may not what to go through with the whole process and just give him up.

Answer 5

I was forst to go with my dad when I was your sons age I am now 14 and still go with dad!Me and my dad still have no bond,I have been going to see him every other weekend for 10 years now.It is a living hell when I go there now! If I were you I would see what you can do with the court so you kid doesn't have to go threw hell and back.

Answer 6

Check to see if there is a non-profit organization in your area such as CASA. They provide a service to divorced parents whereas you take your son to a central location, drop him off with a trained volunteer and then your ex picks him up. Unless you can get the court to agree to supervised visits with your ex, this may be your only recourse.

Answer 7

I would ask the court to reevaluate the situation. Perhaps have them order a custody evaluation. There has to be some reason your son does not like to visit his dad. Better safe than sorry.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

well i was made to go see my dad... and i hated it!!! but now my brothers don't have to go see him ask the father about this and ask what he thinks if he's not trying to have a bond then i would ask the judge

Answer 10

not fair but he has parental visitation rights and you're stuck with it