should I leave him?? or is it my fault.
2006-11-22 08:17:25 · 40 answers · asked by bubbles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Bad day here, was hurt badly and was smart to leave. It does not get better, it not your fault (he will say it is)
And if you go to a hospital tell the staff he beat you up do not cover up for him it won't help
And if you can understand this I say Yea
if not just like those who knew me in school when it happen I will say a pray for you I had many before I left and got my life back.
2006-11-22 08:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by aaricka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of who is at fault. No man should beat a woman. When I would get mad and I thought that I might do something that I would regret later, I would get into the car and take off driving sometimes 4 or 5 hours.
I know there are women that beat their men, but not too many men will admit it because they are embarrassed or afraid to say it.
I have a friend that I met that was abused by her x-husband, and she is suffering big time from it. I feel sorry for her when she talks to me about it.
I recommend to men that abuse their wife, just take off from the house or wherever, and cool down. I recommend anger management counseling and get some medication for it, because there is medication available for that purpose.
I hope everyone has a Happy Thanksgiving.
2006-11-22 11:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there and know how you feel. I think that men who beat their wives are cowards and are lower than the worst scum of the earth. Men who beat their wives are sick individuals with mental defects. I know they walk around and act like nothing is wrong with them and that's what makes them truly crazy. The choice to leave is yours but know that if you do decide to leave make sure you go to a place that you would be safe and that he will not be able to find you. It might mean leaving the city or state or both. No when a man abuses a gift it is never your fault. Like I say it's something lacking in him not you. So keep your head up and try to move on. If you decide to move on, it will be hard at first but you can get through it. It's better to move on your own than in a bag. Just words for thought.
2006-11-22 08:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men how beat their wife can't see that their wife is like a part them (they have become one). Its not your fault, if you can try to talk to him. If that don't work go to a family member's/ friend's home and take a break from him, also get help. If nothing works you should leave him for good.
2006-11-22 08:26:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u no the obvious answer is 2 leave him but it's easier said than done ur the one experiencing this so it's ok for everyone to put there 5 cents in but ur the one going through this pain. but its a viscous cycle he hits u and then says sorry he will never do it again and u believe him but the truth is ur 2 scared 2 leave u have 2 get the strength and courge cuz he wont change and its not up2 u 2get him 2 he has 2 want 2 do it for him self u have 2 leave or he'll take every bit of respect, self esteem, dignity everything u got 2 u feel worthless and start 2 think u can't live wit out him it's up2 u there's someone out there for u who is going 2 b amazing in every aspect u just gotta b strong.
Good Luck
2006-11-22 13:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by mrs motorcross 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really think that men who beat there women are really disrespecting God to say that hes not doing a good job because he created a woman and for course u should leave him honey u deserve the best and u should never let any man belittle u.dont think its ur fault every one makes mistakes but u would be stupid if u stay with him
2006-11-22 08:22:31 · answer #6 · answered by roxylue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sarah... Men who beat their wives or women who beat their husbands is NEVER acceptable! It is not your fault. You need to leave him, once and for all, never return and no second chances. Consider yourself lucky that he as not serious injured you or already killed you. Do not tell him that you are leaving or why you are leaving. If you have children, take them with you. Go to a battered woman's shelter and be honest with them. Tell them why you are there. Good luck.
2006-11-22 08:24:57 · answer #7 · answered by Todd Maz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think men who beat up any one is a sick loser and be put into jail for along time. Yes you should leave him before he becomes more violent and could end up killing you. Seek help from the women shelter and it is not your fault. Seek help now.
2006-11-22 11:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hits you you should leave him. Maybe, just maybe someone could be blamed for an argument, but nobody deserves to be beaten. When he isn't htere you need to get your stuff and disapear. When someone crosses that line it is too easy for the abuse to progress. More women have ended up hospitolized or even dead at the hands of a spouse or boyfriend who "really loved them and would never let if go that far".
2006-11-22 08:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by toff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is most definitely NOT your fault. He, and only he, is at fault, because he has made the choice to abuse you like this. Get help NOW. If you are in danger, leave him, call the police, do something. My heart goes out to you. Godspeed.
2006-11-22 08:20:30 · answer #10 · answered by Zeorus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋