2006-11-22 08:07:09 · 17 answers · asked by joe b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thats a tough one, take her back only if you think you can raise the child as your own and not throw it in her face every time you disagree or argue.
Another option is to put the child up for adoption.
2006-11-22 08:10:26 · answer #1 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, you must really be tore up inside. I don't know. If she wasn't pregnant at this time do you feel she would have came back? If the answer is yes, then there is some possibility. You have to really love her to even be considering taking her back. If you can get over the fact that she slept with someone else and got pregnant and you can really deal with it, I would say yes. I am a firm believer that everyone makes mistakes and this is a huge one. You would have to truly forgive her and not be bringing it up everytime there is a problem. I don't know if there is enough counseling in the world to overcome this situation. However, I'd seek professional help if this is your consideration. I'd pray on this and by all means take your time before making a decision. Whether you take her back or not, I hope and pray that things turn out the best for you. That is like every man's nightmare.
good luck
2006-11-22 08:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only you can truly answer that question. You know that she is pregnant by some other guy. If you can handle being a father to another man's kid, then go for it. But now if you can't handle it then leave her alone. Because the baby will be a constant reminder that she was with someone else during your split.
2006-11-22 08:16:47 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it is someone elses child, than if u take her back, there is always a chance the other man will come back into the picture. if u take her back, than u will be responsible for the child until it reaches maturity financially, if u should choose to give this child your name. good luck in whatever decision u choose to make, know that it won't be easy raising someone elses child, if u were to become really attached to the baby, and the biological dad came back, are u sure your wife wouldn't leave u for him? alot to think about here.
2006-11-23 14:14:38 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is carrying another man's child and you are considering taking her back?, you must be an angel, and you really love her, think into the future, how would you treat this child it would not be the child's fault, and what if the dad comes back?.
2006-11-22 08:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you still love her and you both want to try again then take her back but if u dont feel like u can trust her anymore and it absolutely kills you to look at her then don't but there can at least be a friendship.
2006-11-22 08:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by may_jhenae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would run away.
If you could manage to stay together, I would consider giving the baby up for adoption. I cannot honestly say I could love a child who was created that way. Unfair to all.
2006-11-22 08:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't care who planted the seed... as long as you're willing to care for the child all the child's life: then you get to reap the harvest.
But I gotta ask you why? Why should you take the responsibility for the actions of two other full grown adult?
2006-11-22 08:18:04 · answer #8 · answered by the old dog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes,
You love her, go for it.
Some times life throw you lemons, but just make it something else you know.
You will love the baby like your own and you will love her.
Just make sure she will love you..
Tell her that out right.
and then just start planning your family. and pretend the rest of it never happend
Good luck
2006-11-22 08:19:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there. Done that.
Answer: NO! DO NOT TAKE HER BACK!! Focus on your own life, forget about her and move on. She's NOT worth the time or trouble.
2006-11-22 08:11:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋