Everything you dislike or hate, Is what you dislike about yourself?

Question

So how does it work?
Does it really mean that everything you hate, is what you actually are yourself?
I heard this a few times, And I cant quite understand as to how
this works. Or what it means.

Help?

Answer 1

Everything I dislike or hate about someone is not what I dislike about myself. Although, it is a true statement that you are your own worst critic. Especially when someone points out a flaw you have and you already beat yourself up about it over and over. But I hate other people's ways (like selfishness) and I am not selfish at all. I just think that I see flaws in myself that others may or may not see. People in general, unless they are egotistical, find their own faults.

Answer 2

we are getting into deep stuff here. Carl Jung Stuff. Jung theorized that if we disliked something about a person, or disliked them AS a person - we are actually envious of the thing we dislike about them; we wish we had that thing.
Now the interesting thing about this is I tried a bit of soul searching on this one.
I disliked my boss on a personal level. She was very efficient and a go-getter;but I though she was bossy and overbearing.
I had a think about why I disliked her. I had to admit that I wanted to be more like her; Decisive.
We are very complex creatures; our minds are terrifyingly powerful, if we only understood how to harness that power. We could be God-like. I'm pretty sure it's what God had in mind when he created us in His own image!
He gave us all the tools; we just havent figured out how to use them yet!!

Answer 3

This is a theory that comes from the Psychoanalytic theories of Freud, and is called projection.

Basically it's about those parts of yourself that you hate or don't want to acknowledge; you end up projecting them onto other people. A classic example is of someone who is a closet homesexual but is in denial about it, becoming very homophobic and discriminating against gay people.

Answer 4

Similarly the philosopher Schopenhauer has argued that we don't actually love what we desire but that we love desire itself. So we only love our own desire and we only hate what we hate in ourselves. So we are all self obsessed egotists. Not sure I get it though, am probably as confused as you. Then again I hate noisy eaters and this is routed in my childhood for being shouted at for making noises when I ate so maybe it's saying that we develop a concept of what we find acceptable from what we are taught or learn about ourselves?? Who knows?

Answer 5

Oh, that's just another one of those PSYCHE terms to get you to use your brain & guess what? IT WORKED! Roughly translated, it just means that when you find something that annoys you, it is usually (not always) because it triggers a memory in your own mind of a time or situation that you were doing, thinking, or involved with people or activities relating to the subject that you now find disgusting or annoying. Does that make sense? I am finding it difficult to explain it in words that will be easily understood. It just means that you can relate to it from a past experience...good or bad! :o)

Answer 6

I have heard that before. And I have found some truth to it.
For example, I really hate it when people leave all their lights on in house when not using them. And that's a habbit of mine I don't like. So yes, there is some truth to it.

Answer 7

i dislike brussel sprouts. I am not a brussel sprout.
:-)

I recognise my own failings, but, generally, I am very comfortable with my personality/ body shape/ intelligence/ attitude

there are many traits that I dislike in other people, that I don't see any problem with, in my own personality.
example, I dislike homophobes, but I am very comfortable with my own sexuality, and I dont feel that I have any problem with anyone else's sexuality

Answer 8

Not necessarily true. People claim that what you find most annoying about someone is usally a trait that you, yourself possess. It's about a 50/50 chance in my opinion. I think that what someone finds annoying about someone...you can usually find a number of people that agree with you. They think it's annoying too.

Answer 9

The saying has its roots in confusism, and it boils down to the people you react to most strongly, whether with love or hate, are projections of your inner world.

What you most hate is what you most deny in yourself.
What you most love is what you most wish for in yourself.

Answer 10

Yes there's a truth about it. When you don't like something of yourself...and find the guilt to the others and yell at them why they are not organised....deep inside you know that you are just like that person that you hate.