He was keeping it from me, I found all his disks when I was cleaning out the desk.That is when the problem started.We did talk about it and he told me that if it bothered me he would stay off of the sites,that lasted maybe 3 days and he was back at it.I really don't mind he looks occasional but he spends more time on the sites then with me,then when he is done looking he comes to me for sex to get off,which doesn't turn me on at all.We are together 10 years, we have 3 kids,I thought he was bored so we got toys,etc. it didn't help.
2006-11-22 08:02:12 · 22 answers · asked by icequeen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i know exactly how you feel hun, my husband has been doing this for years and like an idiot i've always believed he'd stop.It makes you feel worthless and very rejected....we have talked about this and decided to go for counselling to see if we can work things out. I truly believe it is like an addiction....he just can't seem to stop, he does for a while then it all starts again.....i wish you luck sweetie and hope you can sort things out x
2006-11-22 08:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at the movies with your husband if this is what turns him on, and remember he comes to you for sex after 10 yrs. you not going to someone else, i do not see a problem here, after all this time you should not be embarrassed he is your husband.
2006-11-22 08:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are these fetish sites that he visits? if so, it's probrably creating a mental 'fuel' to speak that gets him going...try and find out what that 'fuel' is, and try to mimic it...
not to be intrusive, but have you changed your look lately? sometimes a simple thing like a new hairdo or a different way of dressing can do the trick...
good luck^^
2006-11-22 08:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by mr E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK its not your fault, maybe he is just a little bored, possibly try role playing see if that floats his boat. I personally don't see the point in porn, why watch somebody else when you can participate.
2006-11-22 08:07:20 · answer #4 · answered by gameface_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(((hugs))) He is addicted and needs help. Cut off the internet or install covenant eyes. The link below is from Dr. Phil.
2006-11-22 14:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance' used to do the same thing. He was just horny and needed some role play and extra intercourse sessions. Surprise him. Send the kids away and get freaky with him.
2006-11-22 08:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by Baby Girl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My question is do you sterilize the keyboard and mouse after he uses it because I'm sure it's covered in all kinds of biohazard and that's just gross if your kids are playing on the computer. But I don't suppose you care. If it's been in you, a little on your hands couldn't hurt.
2006-11-22 08:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Watch them and find out what's turning him on. Come over and we'll practice. Then surprise him.
2006-11-22 08:13:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe you should confront him again.
Very nicely (but firmly) tell him that it bothers you. If he still doesn't respond, maybe there is something lacking in your relationship? Perhaps a counseler would help?
2006-11-22 08:04:53 · answer #9 · answered by Orange ♥Mocha♥ Frappuccino 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Icequeen..email me, I have a suggestion on a book your husband could read, if interested.
2006-11-22 08:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by HJ8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋