My company is always having parties. The biggest is the Christmas party. The company sends every employee beautiful, expensive personalized invitaitons when a simple e-mail to all would do. I have too much going on outside of work with family, etc. and don't have (or want to) attend any party after work. Even if we RSVP we will not be attending, the manager sends us an e-mail and asks why we won't be attending. Giving reasons like "personal" or "just dont' want to attend" is not acceptable. They keep harassing the ones who never go to these parties. I get along fine with the people I work with but I don't want to see them after hours. Any suggestions out there?
2006-11-22 07:51:14 · 8 answers · asked by Me, Myself & I 4 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Always say you're coming and then don't show up. Only works for large companies. I know a guy who did that for 30 years.
Personally I think you should show up, say hello to your boss and then disappear.
2006-11-22 07:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The company knows that people who play together have a better chance of turning out better collective effort. People who don't want to spend any time with co-workers unless they are getting paid for it are not very good team players. The company wants team players and is trying to encourage you to be one.
You may not realize how insulting it is to the rest of the employees when you don't show up. Your selfishness gets in the way of good teamwork, but since you don't see it that way, you view the company as "harassing" because they want you to be a happy and satisfied employee.
2006-11-22 16:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by united9198 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My last job was the same way, parties, events, then it was taking up a collection of money to buy something for boss's day, wedding gifts, graduation...it was ridiculous. I finally just said, I don't want to participate, I spend all week with my co-workers, see them almost more than my family. I stopped signing up or going, and eventually they just knew not to even ask me about it. Don't know if that will work in your situation.
2006-11-22 17:45:51 · answer #3 · answered by SO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them it's against your religon. For instance, Jahovas Whitnesses don't celebrate holidays and important events with parties.
Just say your a Jahovas Whitness, and you can't go. That will prolly be the end of the story then.
2006-11-22 15:54:54 · answer #4 · answered by frenchie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That makes sense - You see them all day at work, so you need some breathing room. The best way is to just be honest, as cliche as it may sound. Somehow, honesty always finds a way to work out. Good luck :)
2006-11-22 15:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by Harsh Noise Wall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you have more important stuff than partes to attend. If they don't understand, then whatever. If they harass you about it, put in a greivance to your manager about the particular way you're treated and see what happens.
2006-11-22 15:54:12 · answer #6 · answered by Cold Fart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think they are trying to hard but to appease them, go to a few here and there and they won't bother you as much. and you might even enjoy yourself!
2006-11-22 16:00:46 · answer #7 · answered by morequestions 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is forced socialization. Tell them to **** off.
2006-11-22 16:07:53 · answer #8 · answered by billofthebailey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋