I recently had to make a decision to get rid of a friend I've known for 10 years because he is so jealous of any of my success whether it's with jobs or women or anything. He was always like that since I met long time ago but I expected him to grow out of it but when I realized he hasn't and in fact he got worst I had to dump him even though it hurt me so much to do it.
An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind.
Buddha
564?—483 b.c.
2006-11-22 07:50:45 · 6 answers · asked by Believe me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
"Yes", I certainly have. But, in my situation it was the other way around.. I got into a really "Bad, ugly marriage" for 7 years, and my best-friend, who I'd known since we were 12 & 13, would go and tell all our other friends all of my domestic problems, and I'd tell them to her in "The strictest Confidence", well when he & I devorced, it was like she didn't want anything to do with me .. It was as if she liked it when I was all down in the dumps, and being abused.. And someone to talk about.. Once, she no longer had anyone too "Gossup" about, it was like she had no time for me. Not to mention she was so insecure, I think she was worried I'd put the moves on her hubby being that I was now "Single" and all.. She would talk badly of me, behind my back, to some of our closest friends who would in turn tell me.. Because, they knew me better than that.. And that she was all "Full of it"!! She just wasn't happy, unless, I was going through something bad, how sad, is that!! Nor did she have any time for me, unless she had something bad to tell everyone about me!! When things were going really well for me, was always the really quiet times, that's when I never heard from her. How sad is that?!! My family always told me, she was just "Jealous" of me! Oh well, I saw her, 2 summers ago, and we played "Catch-up", she owns a home down the street from my father-in-law.. And when she found out that this same house will be left to my daughter,when he passes,,away, and that being that its a corner-lot, worth probably a good 2-3 million dollars, that her little house didn't hold a candle to what my daughter will inharet, one day.. she was so mad, she couldn't contain herself.. She kept argueing with her husband in front of me, that thier house would be well worth more, one day.. He had to shut her up finally by telling her, Kelly its a corner-lot, our's isn't !!! Dah-Heart!!! So, I totally understand, how you feel... I love her, she's like "Family" I've known her so many years.. But, I cant stand that side of her. Its really sad, that she's not happy unless she has someone to put down, or to make herself feel better, she just has to have someone to put down.. I feel sorry for her, more than she hurts me, you know. Oh well.. I would just have a talk w/ your friend and try to get him in on some of your "Successes" along with you. That might just be part of his problem. He wants to grow with you, and be up there along with you, you know. Otherwise, you two dont really have alot in common, and may make him feel alienated, from you & your friendship, you know.. Just allow him to take part in some of your successes some how, and that might help your friendship, or just dont bring things up to him, if his friendship really means alot to you....Then dont share your "Achievements" with him anymore... You know.. Sad, but that might be what you have to do to save your friend from being insecure around you...
2006-11-22 08:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep. My friend who I had been practically sisters with since 4th Grade had always seemed selfish since she only ever talked about herself (in high school I was seriously ill and she would only call and talk about her day instead of asking how I was - like all my other friends).
I thought that maybe she was uncomfortable with the situation or something, but throughout high school and college, she never changed. After I graduated college (and we did not go to the same school), I stopped contacting her because I realized that it wasn't fair for my friendship with her being so one-sided.
Sometimes, a friend seems so awesome at the time, but after you start having other, better friendships, you realize the truth of the original friendship.
2006-11-22 15:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by teel2624 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I was in that situation and learned from it. In life, we are lucky to have one or two close friends who provide encouragement and are not jealous of our success in life. It is better to get rid of these two-faced individuals than to have them weighing you down.
2006-11-22 15:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by Miss J 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes I have and you know she was backstabbing but i just ignored her and soon enough it was like if she wasn't even there when she passed me by.
2006-11-22 15:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by babycrystal12195 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, i have a great friend but my friend can not help me because he is so far from me. so he is good friend but not useful one.lol
2006-11-23 13:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yah.... it sux
2006-11-22 16:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by bailey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋