Justin has been my bestfriend since Kindergarten, now we are both 26. He got married last year to this girl named Sarah. From the beginning of thier relationship, she has always been mean to me, but it is getting worse. When ever we go out together, she insists on coming, when I call him, she always gets on the other line and tells him he has to get off, the other day I saw her in public and she got all up in my face and started harassing me. She calls me all of the time and tells me to stay away from him. I had a birthday party with just a few close friends, and I did not invite her, and only invited him and she showed up anyway! I have told him that she is doing all this, and he is really upset and is thinking about leaving her. She is still harassing me, and tellings me not to see my bestfriend. What should I do? She has not right to control his life and she dosn't need to come with him everywhere.
2006-11-22 07:44:28 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell him to leave that B*tch
2006-11-22 07:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by Rose 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's jealous. But you have to accept the fact that your best friend is now a married man. It isn't right that you would invite him somewhere and not her - they are a couple.
I had a similar experience. My best friend in high school was a guy - he was like my brother. When I got married, my hubby had no problem with him. They got along fine. However, when my friend got married, she had a problem with me - she was jealous of my friendship with her husband. I always thought that was stupid because by the time they got married, I was already married for a while and had a child.
The sad thing is, my friend and his wife divorced, but I lost contact with him during their marriage, and now I cannot find him. You need to try your best to be a friend to her as well - you aren't doing your friend any favors by telling him everything she does and says to you. It's putting him in the middle. Apparently he loves this woman or he wouldn't have married her. It's up to you to make the majority of the adjustments. You don't want to cause problems in his marriage, and you don't want to risk the loss of his friendship.
2006-11-22 07:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does she dislike you so much? Do you try to get him to go out and party like he's single? She should be nice to you because your his best friend but also when guys get married they can't go to the clubs and bars trying to pick up girls and since your still the single guy she might think your are trying to drag him out to do that. Have you ever bad mouthed her to him which if you have he has went home and told her and that is why she doesn't like you. If you truly care for your friend don't try to ruin his marriage sit down with the two of them and discuss what the situation is. You have to understand though if it is just a situation that your mad because he got married and can't go out and do the single thing with you that's a different story.
2006-11-22 08:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you head to the divorce court it sounds like Sarah is a very insecure girl has Justin reassured Sarah that you two are only friends and although you only wanted him at the party you need to see her side too if she was invited maybe she would have stayed home and Justin needs to sit with her and tell Sarah that he loves Sarah not you and he needs to tell Sarah to either accept your friendship or he is out of there I am sure if Sarah really loves him she will accept this friendship
2006-11-22 07:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whoah Dude?!!!! Someone's "Very Jealous, of your Best-friend!!" Uh, she has some insecurity problems, that need adjusting! Desperately, too!! Because, if you grew up w/ him and he's your Best Pal, then you need to put down the law with her!! Because, she's so insecure, if it wasn't him, it would be someone else, trust me, I know the type. They want you all to themselves, so no one can maybe interfere, or perhaps she's worried he'll introduce you to another woman.. And she may find him as a "Threat to your relationship".. You need to assure her, that he isn't going to do anything disrespectful of your relationship, that you two just want to "Kick it" being that your "Buds" and all. Wow!! I feel for you!! You really need to sit her down, maybe even with the friend in the room, and expain to her, she is not second from your relationship w/ him, and he is not going to introduce you to another girl, or anything stupid like that, and have your friend back you on all of this... this is crazy!! I'd do something before she goes to Balistic, in other areas of your life too, you know.. Just be careful how you word things, you know.. Good-Luck, she sounds like a "Handful!!!" Wow!!!
2006-11-22 07:57:22 · answer #5 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You invited him to your birthday party, but excluded his wife?? You're the one who's messed up and coming from the wrong place. Unless it's a "guys only" party, a man's wife is entitled to go anywhere he does.
It's clear that your lack of respect and propriety are the reasons for her behavior-which you, no doubt, exaggerated.
btw, A man's wife does have the right to a controlling interest in his life.
2006-11-22 07:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by limendoz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you and it sounds like this girl is really controlling maybe you should go to their house and have all of you sit together and confront that it is bothering you of what she is doing and you want her to stop because it is bothering you. Don't do the same thing back.. be the adult in the situation....she is probably just jealous that you guys are closer than she is to her husband.
2006-11-22 07:49:37 · answer #7 · answered by babycrystal12195 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only person who can fix this situation is Justin. I would honestly tell him everything she has done and then end all contact with him. He's either going to do something about it or he's going to lose you as a friend. It's his choice. I hope that things work out for the best.
2006-11-22 07:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by leaptad 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
there's really not a whole lot you can do. it's your friends decision how much he allows her to control him and it's his decision where he allows her to go with him. be his friend by NOT trashing her to him, because that puts him in the middle and that's not fair. he obviously loves her or he wouldn't have married her. don't create conflict by inviting him to places and deliberately leaving her out, because like it or not....your friends married now and that pretty much makes him half of a whole......and you're just adding fuel to the fire by doing this. just be his friend and be there for him. allow him to come to a decision on how he's going to handle this on his own.
2006-11-22 07:51:00 · answer #9 · answered by reeree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all any way your friend know's the story you told here
ask your friend to make realise his wife that he has his own personal life and she has her own so donot interfere in his friendship matters.may be she is thinking that her married life cant move onto a better stage,your friend being so close to you.ask your friend to talk to her with a cool mind and not to think of leaving of his life partner's for simple thing's.
2006-11-23 00:25:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she is married to the guy i mean if you were her and your husband was always with his a girl-friend i think you would think something is going on to...i dont think you would of handled it the same way. aparently she didnt. but have you tried just taking to her just you and her alone. mayeb you and her can be friends.now dont get me wrong i think what she's doing is soooooo wrong but maybe she dosent like u being with your husband ok well much luck!!
2006-11-22 08:01:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋