problem with husband &porn on the internet,followup?

Question

He just doesn't go on and look,he downloads and saves the pictures,he has disks full of them.At first I didn't have a problem with it but now everytime he goes on the internet he goes on these site. We would sit together and watch tv or a movie after we put our kids to bed,now he just gets online and I'm left on the couch by myself.

Answer 1

Well allow him to download as much as pictures he can..You know the serious thing is Virus and Trojan worms that's what porn person attached with their pic-if not so they can use your computer as a back office.Once the Virus will affect his computer he will stay away automatically from those site.If you know computer-do it like this- open the Internet explorer-click tools-click Internet options-And on the security tab raise the bar for top security.So he cannot reach to the site.Window script will block the site to open the web page.Put all the pornographic website on restricted list.It's not an addiction-but it's a kind of craze to see the other woman's glamor.Try to be remain with him - attached with him-show him your romantic mood-glamor-charms etc being a woman you can do all these.Tell him those are pictures only- as we watch the picture of movie star in a magazine.Don't do any financial activity on your computer until he stop visiting those sites.Why you remain left alone on the bed.keep continuous closer touch with him.Let him feel that you are closest to him.I hope so step by step he will forget to watch the porn site. Do it if you can-Take a nice picture of yours with charms and glamor on you.and place it on the desk of your computer.If you have a total privacy-you can keep your picture some how shows your breast-with a low cut blouse.Let he should establish a interest in you more than he had.

Answer 2

You know...were I this type of guy I would at least have the brains and the decency to keep this from you. If it dominates his life then there is a problem. Downloading only means one of two things. Saving them for later masturbation sessions or trading it online/posting it. So...in any case not very good. How's the sex life? Good? Fair? Non-existant? This also is a factor here. Hopefully his "taste" in porn stays on the legal side and not the illegal or bizzare.
I would not be so crass as to say "Watch it with him". Although I have no doubt some dweeb will offer this up as an option for you. What have you done? Have you addressed this with him? His response? There are factors to consider here before making a sound decision.

Answer 3

Hence the name IceQueen. Ewww. That's not good. He should be spending time with you. Don't make dinner for him one night and when he asks you where the food is tell him his internet babes can make his dinner for him from now on. His laundry too. Make his a s s sleep on the couch. This is what I advise everyone that has this problem - throw out the computer and those disks. Don't give him any say - don't talk to him about it in advance - just toss the damn thing and declare martial law. It's cheaper than counseling or a divorce. Also there is life outside the internet believe it or not. Good luck!

Answer 4

Well..obviously the man is addicted to it. Experts say an addiction to porn is much like an addiction to a drug in that viewing images causes the brain to release a chemical and give a man a natural "high". Just like a drug addict becomes addicted to the chemical in a drug, a person looking at porn gets addicted to the feeling from the natural chemical produced from his brain. This is true. He is simply addicted and has to constantly keep going back to these images to get his fix of this chemical. The more he looks, the more he needs it. It's an addiction, plain and simple. If he doesn't get a hold of it, it's going to be a very bad thing.

Answer 5

Sounds like he's addicted. He needs help. I don't know what you can do in this situation tho, if he doesn't want to help himself. Maybe you could find a clinic or a therapist that deals with porn addiction? A support group of some kind? I imagine, there are a lot of people with this problem out there.

Answer 6

It's pretty easy to become addicted to the internet, especially if you have an addictive personality. I'm not sure how long you have been married, but is it possible to surf the internet with him? If not, I would suggest talking with him and asking him why he feels the need to spend so much time on the internet.

Answer 7

Maybe you should copy him like get naked pictures of men and leave him out of it and maybe he will see you would like to be included in his nightly pastime. Or ask him what he likes so much about the pictures and then surprise him by wearing something that's in the pictures. Try role playing that you are one of the sexy ladies coming over to visit him.If that doesn't work ask him to limit his time because you need a little tender lovin care. Tell him they aren't real and you are!!

Answer 8

Lol....well let's start with your nickname .... "icequeen". That might give you an idea why he watches porn alot. Now, I'm sure women who have the nicknames "HotSexyMama" never complain about their husbands watching porn (or they watch it together).

Maybe if you thawed out a bit, and gave him some, then he might lose interest in porn.

Answer 9

He is addicted to porn. The only excuse for this is that you are not giving him enough sex. Is that the case?

Answer 10

MY BOYFRIEND IS THE SAME WAY I USE TO CONSIDER IT CHEATING WHO WANTS THEIR PARTNER LOOKING AT SOMEONE ELSE BECAUSE THEN I WOULD FIND MYSELF THING AM I NOT GOOD ENOUGH BUT NOW I LEARNED TO DEAL WITH IT NOW I FIND MYSELF ALWAYS BUYING SOMETHING SEXY TO WEAR FOR HIM TOOK CLASSES ON HOW TO STRIP WE ENJOY BEING FREAKY TOGETHER NOW IF YOU JUST SPICE UP YOUR LOVE LIFE YOU WILL SEE A DIFFERENCE I PROMISE HE WILL BE LIKE WHAT!!