My wife and I have seperated twice. This most recent time she became a stripper as she needed money. She hasn't been doing it that long, but is really good at it and makes lots of money. We both love each other and want to be together. She wants to stop stripping and live a normal family life, but continue stripping until she finds another job. I told her I'm ok with her stripping because I wanted to be with her so badly, but now I don't think I can handle it. I don't think she even realizes how much it hurts me. I just feel that her body should be special for me and not allow every horny guy in town to see her. She says she wants to quit, but I'm afraid that if she does, she'll miss all the attention and money and will go back to it.
2006-11-22 07:09:32 · 28 answers · asked by sickblade 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't expect her to flip her life around for you...you were seperated for a reason.
Unless she's psychic, don't assume she knows how you feel. Talk to her, explain your feelings. If she doesn't quit or does not make an effort to find another job, leave her or stop being so controling and get over it.
2006-11-22 10:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know they make lots and lots. I had 3 friends who danced in the late '80s and made around $700/night! I'm sure she will miss both the money and the attention (what girl doesn't enjoy knowing she's attractive/hot?). That's normal. And there are very few jobs that will give the same income---and none are easy to just go out and get. So, if you both really want her to stop, she'll have to just make the break and go find a job.
How fantastic that you value and respect her enough to want to put her on such a pedastel. Make sure you give her plenty of attention that lets her know how hot you think she is to help fill that void and she'll get over it quicker. I hope you can work it out.
2006-11-22 15:19:02 · answer #2 · answered by DivaDynamite 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You two have already split up twice. Sometimes it's just not meant to be. It's like you're beating a dead horse. If you are truly IN LOVE with someone it should be unconditional. If she really wanted to quit stripping she would. There are other jobs that she can get. I detect a bit of jealousy in your writing and that might be a reason that your relationship is so difficult to maintain too. You and she need to discuss more issues than just her job before you actually make the decision to "try it again". Like I said, sometimes it's just not mean to be.
2006-11-22 15:17:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe the Moroniac answers these Idiots give, She's a stripper NOT a whore as long as she's not sellin the tail go with it most clubs have rules to where the guys can't touch her, Look at it every time she gets a dollar it's adding to your future as well and lap dances = New clothes or a down payment on a car or house, as long as she's faithful to you I wouldn't sweat it, Just becuase she's showing her goods doesn't mean anything but she's making a living........and ah who does she go/come home to? YOU....let the fella's throw the $$
2006-11-22 15:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by Ray D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about you stop getting back together with you? You've done it twice and it hasn't worked, what makes you think the third time will be any different? And now she's a stripper, to top it off. Time for you to move on.
2006-11-22 15:46:45 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't replace the money then you might have to step.
I dated a stripper and my freinds made fun of me, I told them to go ahead and get a lap dance, I need some new jeans. See what I'm saying.
Just like a woman can't change a man we can't change them, so be happy your dating a hot stripper or be ashamed and let it go. Life is going to go on don't put yourself in purgatory.
2006-11-22 15:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Figure out together what is really important. Perhaps relocating is worth it for a fresh start.
If she loves the attention and the freedom that the money offers then determine how you can fill the attention need and work together to help her get the skills that she can use to get more money.
2006-11-22 15:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by anirbas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude!
Just be happy youve got a girl hot enough to be a stripper.
It doesnt matter at the end of the night who seen her shes coming home to you.
Just let her do what she wants eventually it will get old.Plus you wont be the bad guy that made her stop in the long run.
2006-11-22 16:13:19 · answer #8 · answered by bigpimpinindittmer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have allot of low self esteem issues as a man.
Yes, your wife is a stripper, that means she gives lap dances; and she gets paid to attend private parties (where everything goes).
If you want her that bad. Get a blow up doll. She's a sperm depository, period. Oh, did I forget to mention "gold digger" as well?
She has the morals of a sewer rat and I'm sure she will look pretty old and haggard by the time she is in her ripe 30's.
Good luck!
2006-11-22 15:13:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
why can't you support her financially until she finds another job?sorry but there's no excuse she's already in love with the fast money and male attention she wants both worlds and that's up to you to stick around or just move on and find someone who only desires your attention good luck to you and don't be a sucker!there's plenty of beautiful woman out there that you can trust:)
2006-11-22 15:17:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋