My soon-to-be-ex and I seperated 8 months ago, we both have attorneys, but he and his attorney are dragging their feet. I am not emotionally attached to him any more, and haven't been for quite some time (hence the divorce). I never quite felt the "soul mate" feeling, but tried relentlessly to make it work anyhow. But, I'm starting to become emotionally attached to someone else now...is that wrong?
2006-11-22 07:02:11 · 14 answers · asked by kiigetto 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know, is it? How do you feel about it? What is holding you back (eg what other people might think)? Make a list with pros & cons. If the reasons for you not to start a new relationship are only based outside yourself (other people's view on that) that you absolutely go ahead and have a new relationship BECAUSE it's your life.
2006-11-22 08:47:47 · answer #1 · answered by Caro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't open another door until you close the one behind you. It's nothing wrong with you and this man being friends, but legally you are still married therefore committing adultery. If you're for sure that you and your husband relationship is over then you and your husband should file for divorce so that you can get on with your life and be happy and not worry about whether it's wrong and questioning your morals. Your husband isn't right either, but two wrongs don't make a right.
2016-05-22 17:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are getting divorced and you both know that it is final then I don't see why not but I would keep it under-wraps for a bit of time until the divorce if over never know what can happen if the cat is let out of the bag too soon
2006-11-22 11:41:49 · answer #3 · answered by Andrea M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not wrong, but I wouldnt make it take it too public until your divorce is final if the ex and attorney are dragging their feet. If your going through with the divorce and it is definately over then you should move on.
2006-11-22 07:05:33 · answer #4 · answered by sweetkisz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how long you have been separated you are still under legal contract to your husband and until you are divorced from him it is wrong (legally) for you to begin relationship with someone else. Consider the ramifications that the affair could have on your divorce and the fact that you are bringing someone else into the proceedings and that person could end up hurt in the end. Divorce then date.
2006-11-22 07:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck, no, it's not wrong! You cannot control who you are attracted to and who you are not.
Depending on your state's divorce proceeding, having another person in your life might complicate things, so don't let your soon-to-be-ex know that you're seeing someone else. It's no longer any of his business.
You have to live your life, and since you said you're no longer emotionally attached to your soon-to-be-ex, I see nothing wrong in your dating this other guy. Enjoy! :-D
2006-11-22 07:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by Peter S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong. Especially considering the fact that you never had that connection with him anyway. However, I do think that it was unfair to get married to someone that you couldn't see yourself spending your life with.
2006-11-22 07:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by Trice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! according to the bible it is wrong, you must be divorced, if you are not divorced it is considered aldultery......Dont worry, God has a plan for you.....take care.
2006-11-22 07:44:16 · answer #8 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wrong. However, you can't get married again without getting divorced first.
2006-11-22 07:55:38 · answer #9 · answered by evilbarrister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope. the divorce process is started. if you have feelings for someone else, then your grieving has stopped and you are ready to move on.
2006-11-22 07:08:19 · answer #10 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋