Every Thanksgiving I cook dinner and have over my family and then we, my husband of 1 year go to his parents for dessert. This year I am having an extended family member for dinner and feel its rude to leave them behind to have dessert with my husbands family. He says its only fair that I go with him since he has to eat with my family. Please help, I'm not sure how to handle this!
2006-11-22 06:28:08 · 15 answers · asked by dawnintrouble 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why not take the extended family member with you to your in-laws house for desert? Your husband is right, you should go, but you should also ask your family member to join you. If they decline, let them know you still need to go because it is a family tradition and your husbands family is important to you.
2006-11-22 06:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either tell his parents that you cannot attend because of extended family at your house and ask to excuse yourselves this year. That's the precursor for them telling you to bring the extended family over.
In any case it will be you're going...or not.
This is all too simple. Don't you ever talk to your in-laws? Are they really that barbaric that they would say "NO"? Plus...you say "every Thanksgiving". What? All of one? You've been married one year right? Or has this been ongoing. Add more details to your problem. It saves superfluous writing.
2006-11-22 14:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite the "extended family member" to go with you to have dessert, but by all means , go with your hubby. It can, and will, be a lot of fun for the new member to meet your hubby's family. Don't stress...enjoy the Holiday!!
2006-11-22 14:40:51 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should still go over to his family's what if it was the other way around, you would be mad, because Thanksgiving is a time when family gets together, If you don't mind leaving your family in your house, go ahead and go to your in laws it would only be fair, don't want to start a family fued.
2006-11-22 14:35:25 · answer #4 · answered by crazy007girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
should have thought of this b4 u invited extended family. either way you will most likely upset some one and this seems like it will have a big impact on your marriage so you need to decide weather you are going to respect your tradition AND your husband and go with him. or start new and not go. not going however; will look to his family like you are being rude and that the two of you are having problems.
its your decision but remember no matter who you choose some one will be hurt. sorry:-(
2006-11-22 14:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by soccer2music 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask his family if it is okay to bring a guest with you. offer to bring something with you, such as a good dessert wine or extra goodies, a board game that will accomodate a group of people.
it's not likely they will say no. but in the end...you should go with your husband as it is only for dessert.
2006-11-22 14:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why can't everyone just eat at yours this is thanksgiving AFTER ALL and if they'res not enough table and chairs rally round and get some or just explain the situation to your guest and see what he/she says i'm sure what ever happens it'll work out.. Don't worry about it too much gl
2006-11-22 14:39:22 · answer #7 · answered by free2fall67 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you all eat at the same place? invite your hubbys family over or ask your hubbys family to take you and all your brood over there. or just take the extended family over there for dessert.
2006-11-22 14:54:59 · answer #8 · answered by hamhead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats alot why don't you jsut have his parents over for dinner also and they can bring dessert.
2006-11-22 14:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by christina c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your family dinner time will be from such and such time to such and such time. Afterwards go with your husband.
2006-11-22 14:31:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋