married and he won't beable to help me but he said he would. You see we work to together and we met about a year ago( thats when we started having an affair) and we both have someone and its going to hard for me to tell my partner that I'm pregnant and the same for him. I just messed up. What do u think?
2006-11-22 06:25:21 · 12 answers · asked by Jessie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well, about the only thing I can say is THANK GOODNESS YOU AREN'T HAVING AN ABORTION!!!
Otherwise, fess up to your mistakes and take the responsibility.
2006-11-22 06:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You didn't "just mess up" by yourself. The baby's father should take responsibility by helping to support your child. If he does not want to, you can take him to court and a judge will order him to pay. If he does not obey the order, they can garnish his paycheck.
Your partner is going to notice that you're pregnant. There is no reason the guy who got you pregnant should be off the hook. He will have to tell his wife and deal with the consequences, unless he can manage to pay the child support without her knowing. That, even, is not such a good plan. His wife deserves to know what he;s been up to so she can decide if she wants to stay with him.
If you work together, it seems like there's no way around it. Just tough it out... the sooner the truth is out in the open, the easier it will be to move on and take care of the most important thing-- your baby.
2006-11-22 14:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Switch 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is hard for people to understand how easy it is to get involved with someone when you are either married, they are or in your case, you both are. I am sorry you are going thru this. It is a hard situation for everyone concerned. No matter what you do, someone is going to get hurt in all this. I think the most important person in this is the baby. I applaud you for not having an abortion. I really cannot give you advice as to what you should do, I can only tell you that I am here for you if you need someone to listen. Instant message me or email me and we can talk. Take care.
2006-11-22 14:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by Patty 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As difficult as it may be you'll have to confess your short coming to your partner. Whatever you do, don't take away the life of this innocent, unborn baby. You'll be counselled by many about how convenient and how much simpler this action would be, but you are the one who will have to live with the overwhelming guilt of having such an evil thing done. In essence, you'd be condemning this innocent child and sentencing him/her to death for your mistake. Just because this guy is married, this doesn't relieve him of his obligation to you or his unborn child. He's not only morally obligated to support the child, he's also legally obligated to do so. Like it or not, difficult or not, you'll both have to come clean and face the consequences. That's what being an adult human being is all about.
2006-11-22 14:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by utuseclocal483 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's time to stop running around and just let the cat out of the bag. Keep your baby and live your life and hopefully you've learned a valuable lesson from all this. Think about how hurt your lovers wife is going to be. What's done is done so at this point just do the right thing moving forward.
2006-11-22 14:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by Darcee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for an abortion and stop this mistake from getting any bigger than it is. You are messing up so many lives with your actions, take some responsibility and make a decision to minimize the repurcussions.
2006-11-22 14:36:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Do not tell ithe circumstances if you don't have to. It will only hurt your partner. I used to think tell all, but that only makes you feel better; your partner seldom recovers from the betrayal. But, of course, telling the partner what you have done will enable your partner to move on.
2006-11-22 14:35:43 · answer #7 · answered by Caffeinated 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to come clean. This will only way on your conscience. Good for you for not aborting the child...have you considered adoption though??
Good Luck
2006-11-22 14:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by Trixie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Come clean and come to terms with the consequences of your actions.
Kudos for not killing your baby.
2006-11-22 14:29:22 · answer #9 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think, stop seeing the married man (duh) and get him on child support. Good luck, when his wife finds out you may have more on your hands then you can handle.
2006-11-22 16:39:38 · answer #10 · answered by blonde_bitch_norris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋