if its been over 45 days since my miscarriage and i still havnt had my periods wat does that mean???

Question

i had a missed miscarriage at 28 weeks of pregnancy, on oct 7. Its been more than 45 days and i still havnt had my periods and i am so desperate to get pregnant again. i did a pregnancy test and it was negative so i dont know what is going on.
i still dont know wat went wrong with my first pregnancy. he was my first child and i sumtimes think if i will ever *** to terms with my loss. I really want to get pregnant again as i feel that it will help me and i am still trying, but i am so afraid that i mite have another miscarriage.

Answer 1

Truly, ask your doctor, not us.

Answer 2

I took a human sexuality class last semester and we actually talked about miscarriage and conceiving again afterwards. Stress plays a huge role in whether or not you can conceive. Also frequency, time of day etc. A period doesn’t ensure that you will conceive. You can conceive even without it being present. What you should do is go to your gynecologist and ask for any ideas he/she might have for you. If it’s really something that you don’t want to wait for nature on you can always ask them to do a fertility test. They can also do ultrasounds and other tests to make sure everything is on course of recovery. Your body just went through a major trauma first of being pregnant and then the miscarriage. I know personally, it took me over a year to get pregnant again after the loss of my first pregnancy. I know it’s hard but you just need to give your body some time. Trust your body and your Drs to know what’s going on.

Answer 3

It's normal for you to have a delayed cycle after going through a miscarriage, you may have to go to the Dr. and have a DNC. done, if that was not done already. Your hormones take a while to get back on a regular cycle and I encourage you to give yourself time to heal before trying to conceive again. The body still has the hcg hormone over acting and is unbalanced right now due to the shock, trauma and the loss of the pregnancy...In time cycles WILL get regulated and back on track. Sorry for your loss and I highly recommend that you contact your Dr. A.S.A.P. for further care and answers to your concerns.. there may be a need for treatment and I don't believe you will locate answers here. Glad to help in any way but , I feel you may need to be checked by your Dr. Good Luck in all ways Always.
~ Reddddddd ~ R.N.

Answer 4

Hi SAM, I am so sad by your loss. A miscarriage is so terrible. Your hormones are all crazy and this is causing you to have incredible blues.Your body is a fantastic thing and it will heal itself, it just works away without any help and puts your system back together. Get yourself healthy, go to your doctor and get advice on starting a mild exercises program, then go to a gym, preferably a women's gym(if there is one near you),start a very healthy eating program and give yourself 1 hr a week to do something you really love. All these things will help put you and your body in the best place for becoming pregnant again.To help come to terms with the loss of your son, give him a name and put together an album of all the photos of you pregnant with him. This is your memory book, look at it as often as you need. Regardless of how many children you end up having, this boy will always be your first born, and to have the photo album gives him a place in your life for ever. Allow yourself to be sad, it is normal, but remember to smile at something once a day. I have been in your shoes and I feel such pain for you, I will pray for you.

Answer 5

You need to take time to grieve the loss of your first pregnancy. You are under an extreme amount of stress due to the miscarriage, which in turn will make it more difficult for you to conceive. You cannot use another baby to make up for the one who passed away, it's not fair to the baby. Once you come to terms with what happened, and you are able to let go of the pain that it caused you, it is then you will be able to conceive another child and love it the way it deserves to be loved. Your body and your emotions both need time to heal. Have patience, it will happen when the time is right.

Answer 6

It takes the body a while to get back in rhythem after a miscarriage. I am very sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts. The stress of the miscarriage along with the stress of wanting to conceive so badly also may have something to do with why you still haven't had your period. Try to calm down and relax. (I know that's easier said than done when you are going thru this.). If it still hasn't happened in a few weeks, give the doc a call and talk to them.

Good luck to you.

Answer 7

First off, I'm very sorry for your loss. Secondly, the best thing that you can do for yourself is see your doctor. It's only been 45 days, it can take a lot longer for your body to heal and for your hormones to calm back down to normal levels.

My personal experience is that you should not be in such a rush. Let your body do what it needs to do and let things occur naturally. The more stressed out you are about getting pregnant, the longer it will normally take. Practice, practice, practice! LOL

I miscarried at 20 weeks. It took two years for me to get pregnant again. At 28 weeks, your body is not going to bounce back very fast. As everyone here is saying: it will take however long it will.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 8

I agree with all the other answers about your body needing time to heal itself. Unfortunately you will never get completely over your loss. That was your child and you will never forget, don't think about having a child to replace the loss. You talk about it and it will get to where it does not hurt so much. Just be patient and let your body do the natural thing, it will get better. I have had 3 miscarriages and so I understand what you are going thru right now. My last one was in August 06 so I am healing too. My advice is to talk to your doctor about your fears and also your partner as having them to talk to will help alot. I wish you the best of luck and you will be in my prayers.

Answer 9

When you get pregnant your body goes through MANY changes. I am sorry to hear of your miscarriage. A miscarriage during your 1st pregnancy is not unheard of...as a matter of fact it is quite common. It also depends alot on your age. Older women even in their young 30's have M's. Your period may take a while to get regular since your female parts when through some drama. Keep trying sweetie it will happen when it is meant to be. You can get pregnant even if you don't have periods - it is rare but can happen. I will keep you in my prayers!!

Answer 10

I suggest that you go and have a talk with your doctor as your biggest problem is not knowing what really happened or what is happening now.
The most simple answer to lack of periods is stress and without seeing you it sounds like this is the problem.
Once you speak to your doctor and find out why you had a miscarriage then you wil knwo what the future chances are of a normal birth.

My advice as a medical person is to get the facts and try and relax.
The Doc

Answer 11

First off, let me please say SORRY for your loss on your first attempt! I can relate to loss. On March 20th, 2005, my 8 mo. old daughter died from SIDS. As days pass, things seem "lighter", but yet never go away! On why your body has yet to "recover". Well, everything inside you has got to connect to eachother and realize the loss of the baby. The periods, sad to say, will return! If you want another baby, don't stop trying unless that in it self causes you pain. I had a miscarriage and still was able to get pregnant. So don't get discouraged, and don't give up! If, in fact, you are meant to be a mommy, I promise you one thing, God WILL make it happen......God Bless...~Malinda~