I geuss I should also say ,I have to put all the money I earn in the check book he has a cow when I get my nails done.when he finds out I took money out of my pay check he gets really mad.I do not blow any money .he had surgery 8 months ago so we are still paying some Doctor Bills He really hurt me when he said he doesn't trust me.
2006-11-22 06:22:47 · 15 answers · asked by Dew 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your husband will not let you partake in family decisions; such as; getting a dog, balancing the checkbook, and he thinks that you are an imbecile...sit down with him and have a heart to heart. Explain how you feel. (Because you need to be your own individual too). I am not saying to disregard how he feels, but you should be able to meet in the middle. Men can be great at balancing the books. Try to compromise by setting a little fun money for both of you.
2006-11-22 07:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by Nut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK - so what is the real reason for he getting angry? Are the bills getting paid? If not then I think you need to reconsider getting your nails done - if they are - then there is no problem.
If you work and earn a paycheck then he can't tell you what you can and can't do when it comes to money. I could understand (maybe) if you didn't bring any money into the picture - then yes - he has the right to get upset.
If I were you I would start putting a little of my check aside without his knowledge and then you won't have this problem.
Good Luck and God Bless
2006-11-22 14:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by Just asking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is getting mad because you seem to be sneaking the money. You said you took the money out of your paycheck? Meaning you cashed your check first took some money out then deposited the rest into you checking account?
Honestly question is vague but if you are spending finances without consulting (not asking for permission but at least consulting) then you are being dishonest.
2006-11-22 14:36:32 · answer #3 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your husband that you earned the money and you have a right to give yourself a little treat after working hard all week for the money. If he still rants, just leave the house. I did the same thing when I supported my mom who'd had surgery ... I would give myself a little treat like getting my hair done or buying one outfit(that was reasonably priced.)
2006-11-22 14:28:49 · answer #4 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he spend any money? Either way you each should have some sort of agreement on extras my husband and i put all the money in one account and we each have a certain amount that we can just spend on what ever but if we are saving for a vacation or if the kids need something extra or something we will use are extra money maybe you need to sit down and have a agreement on all money.
2006-11-22 14:29:37 · answer #5 · answered by christina c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is a problem. Does he have a cow because he thinks you shouldn't be able to spend money, or are your finances really tight? If they are tight and he is being lean too, then yeah I think he can get a little mad, but if he spends all the time and then gets mad when you do - you have a control freak.
2006-11-22 14:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt trust you! Its just nails jeez! If your so happily married, a joint bank account wont break because of your nails, maybe get a cheaper manicure if your still paying off a few bills....... hope hes ok after whatever he had surgery 4
2006-11-22 14:30:36 · answer #7 · answered by Lucy A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a control freak. However, we do not know if you have any past spending issues. Does he have reason to not trust you? If his controlling manner stem from nothing that you have done, get help from a marriage counselor. Is he controlling in all aspects of your marriage?
2006-11-22 14:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by Dyan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your foot down. Let his asss get mad....who the hell cares? You deserve to spend your hard earned money on whatever the hell you want as long as you take care of your home financial responsibilities.
2006-11-22 14:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a joint account, all things put into and out from it should have the consent of all the parties involved in that account.
If the two of you can't agree, then you two should have two separate accounts, one account for each person.
2006-11-22 14:48:39 · answer #10 · answered by E A C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋