Can we really forgive?

Question

If we can't forget, then do we really forgive?

Answer 1

First you have to understand what forgiveness is...and what it isn't. Forgiveness as defined in the dictionary is when we choose to not persue making someone "pay "for what they have done to us, letting go of the need for revenge. Often, people believe that forgiveness means that you have to give the person another chance, and that really isn't part of the definition at all. So, forgiveness is possible if you are willing to let go of the idea that YOU have to make the person pay for hurting you.(In the long run, what goes around comes around and they will be held accountable in some manner). It is also good to remember that as long as you are unforgiving, you are allowing that person to retain the power to keep hurting you.

Answer 2

We can forgive, from a biblical perspective: Forgiveness is a form of reconciliation. Not meaning that you must continue a relationship, but that you can have peace within yourself, not always thinking about what happened. Also being able to move on. It's very important because unforgiveness has been medically linked to disease and health problems. Being able to remember an incident can make you wiser for the future but should not hold you captive.

Answer 3

I think we can, I just think it is very hard and very rare to truly forgive. And it depends on the level of hurt caused. I can forgive you for taking my can of soda, but can I forgive you for running over my dog? Or take it a level higher, the highest I 've seen, forgive a madman for raping and murdering your daughters?

Also, time does heal the hurt, and as the hurt heals, the memory fades, so I think you'r able to forgive more as time passes. But you must be willing.

Answer 4

Forgiveness means to not let an event between two people interfear with an ongoing relationship. IF you are able to do that , then you have to be ready to not let it crop up in your mind and destroy you. You have to be able to process the event in your mind so that it does not continue to bother you. This is only done by you the individual. I think it can be done, but depending on the severity of the event- it could take years.

Answer 5

If I say I forgive and mean it, then I forgive. Doesn't matter if I forget or not.

Answer 6

It is difficult.
they say it takes a brave heart to admit your mistake and say sorry
and " it takes a real heart to forgive"
people generally forgive but never forget that they have forgiven. this takes the essence out of forgiveness.

Answer 7

Only true love enables one to forgive and forget.

Answer 8

Emancipate yourself from mental slavery, NONE but YOURSELF can free your mind. Yes, we sure can forget and forgive; IF we chose to. The choice is within our control, our decision.

Answer 9

To forgive, most of the time, is to say "I am right and you are wrong".

Answer 10

it depends on the situation that you wanting to forgive but in most cases i would say yes