I am still hving sex with my child's father, we have been broke up for almost a year, but we were together for 8 yrs. He got a girlfriend right away, one month after we broke up his girlfriend was living with him. It's crazy they fuss and fight all the time, I think she has trust issues with him. I have a hard time dating, because I am still in love with him, Why am I still having sex with him, he has a girlfriend? Will us having sex lead us to get back together, or will he con't to just drag me along thinking I won't go anywhere and when he is ready he can have me back? What to do? my mind is saying leave him alone, he is never comming back but my heart says if you keep cool with him and you still feel the spark is there that you guys will be back together1!!!!!
2006-11-22 06:16:25 · 14 answers · asked by crazy007girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why are you letting him drag you along? He has a child with you he should respect you as the mother of his child but instead he goes out and gets another girlfriend and has sex with you on the side. What are you his mistress? I would tell him what a piece of garbage he is for using you the way he has. I know I have been through this with my daughter's father. You know what we didn't get back together better yet he kept getting new girlfriends. You need to kick him to the curb but before you do call his house when he's not there and tell his girlfriend you have bee sleeping with him. Payback's a Bi***
2006-11-22 06:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should leave him alone. His girlfriend has every right to have trust issues with him. Don't continue to degrade yourself. You love him and as women we love hard....but you need to let go. It's obvious that he had her all along if they were together a month after the two of you broke up. No you having sex with him will not lead you back together. I have a question. Do he take care of his child? You didn't mention anything about the child. You need to follow your mind and realize that he is not coming back to you. He don't have a reason to, you are still treating him as if the two of you are still together. Shake yourself, face reality and accept the truth.....that truth is that he's with someone, and if they are happy or not is none of your concern, it's time for one of the players to end the game. Since he's not going to end the game, then you must say "Game Over"
2006-11-22 14:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesnt mean you will be back together. First of all, they argue and you "THINK" its because she has trust isuues... hummm... maybe because "He is sleeping with you?" i would have trust issues too. And i think that you should leave him alone if you love yourself and respect yourself. If you guys are already separated, he has a girlfriend, then respect her as a woman and leave them alone. You guys already had a life together and chose to ended so now let them have a life together. AS for him, i thinnk that he is having a great time being with both of you not worrying about strings attached. He has you and he doesnt have to be married to you? WOW!! he is a happy man! he wont get back with you like that. Dont sleep with him, if he misses yopu and wants you back then its ment to be and he will make things right by breaking up with the girl and coming back to you. Otherwise, let them be and start a new life instead of clinging to the old life. Godd luck sweetie!
2006-11-22 14:23:14 · answer #3 · answered by ahuga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you know he has a girlfriend. Why do you still have sex with him? It is unfair to his g/f right now. She has a right to be jealous then. Having sex won't bring you closer to him. it will only complicate things.
Secondly, your ex may just be using you. He might not be getting what he wants from his present girlfriend.
Thirdly, i suggest you move on. If you think you were meant to be, you'll find yourselves back together in the end.
p.s. i feel so sorry for his g/f.
2006-11-22 14:22:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, no one can tell you whats best for you, but i can tell you that men are horrible at telling the truth, they will keep you around as long as you are doing for them, whether thats sex, money, or any other type of security. Please dont ignore red flags, if he really wanted to be with you and only you, then why does he have the girlfriend? i was in the same situation, and did everything in my power to keep the one i was in love with, including having sex even when i knew he was living with his girlfriend, 4 years later after 7 other women, he still wasnt with me. he used the fact that i loved him to his advantage. Dont let this man in your life take advantage of what a wonderful woman you are, who deserves a man that is only going to be with one woman, and who will love and cherish you in the same way you do him. if he is not doing that, move on. either he will realize what he missing, and come back correct, or he wont, and believe me, it will be his loss. Dont lower your standards for one who doesnt appreciate you, cause while you're looking for him to be the one, you're actually probably missing out on the best man in your life right in front of you... just pray about it.. be strong.. move on.. and know your self worth. its better than crying about it, sleeping alone when he's with his woman, or worrying about some disease you can catch from him.. think about it..
2006-11-22 15:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by rkelluver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop now. It is one thing to have a friend with benefits. But you may still have feelings for him that need to go away. You broke up for a reason and I assume it is a good reason. You will never move one if you keep sleeping with him.
I know it hurts and it is hard to do but the only relationship you should have with him is through your child.
If you need to talk let me know.
Good Luck
2006-11-22 14:22:16 · answer #6 · answered by Cheryl D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP SLEEPING WITH HIM! girl omg! you need to tell him its either you or the other girl. You do know he is cheating on his gf right? If he is going to come back he isn't going to do it when he has 2 girls to sleep with. sex won't lead yall back together unless you have an emotional relationship too!
2006-11-22 14:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by Daze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you think he will be back with you because you have sex with him? you are wrong, very wrong. Yes, leave him alone. Good luck.
2006-11-22 15:14:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is happy with 2 women and you will just be waiting around for the quickie move on
2006-11-22 14:19:09 · answer #9 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say it's not worth it...ditch him. but i'm sure you don't want to hear that, so follow your heart, girl! but at least tell him you're not going to sleep with him until he ends it with this chick he clearly isn't into.
2006-11-22 14:19:44 · answer #10 · answered by faerydahlia3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋