can a relationship last forever knowing that your not going to get married? How does that work in the long run, what are you know as to each other? Anyone thats been in a long term commitment with no marriage, i would appreciate some answers.
2006-11-22 06:06:56 · 17 answers · asked by sassy2sloppy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
boyfriend doesnt want to get married (i mean we're still young yet), because of what happened between his mom and dad, but we live together (for over 2 years) and he wants to stay with me forever
2006-11-22 06:12:09 · update #1
I think it can work long-term, maybe even forever, but only if the both of you agree that marriage is not a nescessary part of your relationship. If either one of you cannot get used to the idea, then it likely wouldn't work. If it is very important to you then do not settle.
2006-11-22 06:10:28 · answer #1 · answered by Maitreyi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely! It's just a very tricky issue. In society, marriage is an act demonstrating your devotion to someone. If you and your partner don't get married, some people still see that as a sign of relationship problems. There's also the reason why you don't want to get married. Some people don't see the need. Some people don't want the trouble. But some people are stuck with partners that won't get married because they are afraid that something better will come along. It depends on your situation. But let's face it. whether you're married to someone or not, you can still spend your life together.
2006-11-22 14:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by cyber_music 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nowadays there are many live in partners and society accepts that as a way of life. Getting married is significant and not only like signing a piece of paper called a contract. It is a partnership for life. It enables the woman to use the surname of her spouse. It also gives you the equal rights to ownership of your properties and investments entered. You are both protected. However in my opinion it is better to have a permanent commitment with each other by receiving the Holy Sacrament of matrimony. God should be the center of your marriage so that things would not go wrong in this difficult world.
2006-11-22 14:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousin was with the same woman for 19 years and they just recently married. His brothers have all been married and divorced multiple times.
I know another person who has been with his partner for over 20 years.
If you want to be married, for whatever reasons (religious, family, culture) you won't be satisfied until you are. If not, people like these 2 couples have stuck together. The only way it will work is if both people are in complete agreement from day one.
I disagree that "marriage is a piece of paper" and resent the non-married's dismissal of something sacred. If they don't want to get married- that's fine. But don't bash marriage or dismiss it as meaningless. It's meaningless to YOU, not to everyone.
2006-11-22 14:10:57 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My uncle "dated" his girlfriend for 30 years before they got married.
Another uncle has been with his male partner for just as long, and they can't get married (and I don't think they feel like they need to).
But that's besides the point. Some people do not believe in marriage, and that's fine. But you can get screwed legally if you don't set it up right with taxes, medical power of attorney, wills, etc. But if you don't see it as a religious thing, and don't want it for personal reasons, I guess there's really no reason to get married except the legal stuff.
2006-11-22 14:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by sarcastro1976 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have nothing against marriage , especially when there are children involved .
Other than that , you can have a life time relationship without being married .
I'm married and very happy , but if we were just living together , that would be fine too .
It's not because you have a marriage certificate , it will keep you together .
2006-11-22 14:14:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes a relationship can last forever without marriage. But in my opinion people should get married when they know they want to spend the rest of their lives with eachother, because marriage just makes the relationship whole, and more secure.
2006-11-22 14:09:30 · answer #7 · answered by superboredom 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend doesn't want to get married either, so I can relate to you. I believe that two people can spend the rest of their lives together with or without marriage.
2006-11-22 14:58:28 · answer #8 · answered by Beth T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my Boyfriend for over four years. A couple that we are friends with have been together over 10 years and are still not married. Marriage is more of a piece of paper than anything some people just don't want to get married.
2006-11-22 14:09:27 · answer #9 · answered by athenajade 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I can’t even imagine being with my husband forever and not marring him. I believe marriage is a spiritual thing, and I am blessed he would make that kind of commitment with me. Marriage has brought us much closer together. I do believe if you are not religious, marriage doesn’t mean much. I my case, my husband and I are united under God. It’s very special.
2006-11-22 14:22:09 · answer #10 · answered by SavvyGrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋