My friend was seriously ill and need a transplant at one time. I would always pay for trips/food and would cut VAC short if she got sick. Once she got the transplant and recovered she borrowed $ from me and promised to start paying it back the next month. She never made payment or acknowledged it. When I mentioned something to her, she completely ignored it. She knew at the time I was having money problems and had to borrow some from my parents. Since then we have not talked much. Also when she was recovering her family borrowed $1K from me and I had to fight to get that back, and she couldn't stand that they were not paying me. It is like she turned around and did the same thing. Should it just be a lesson learned or is it worth keeping? I have a hard time forgetting this because it seems like a lack of respect.
2006-11-22 05:47:42 · 6 answers · asked by Jennifer P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Someone once told that they never LOAN money, they give it, because if the person asks for it, they evidently don't have any money and they really need it.
Chalk it up as a lesson learned and understand that your blessings (money and all) do not come from people, but from God. Thank him for putting you in a position at the time to help someone and continue to do good. God will take up with this friend what she owes, because the bible speaks of debts!
It is a personal choice whether or not you continue the friendship, but it goes without saying that you should not give her or her family any more money. You live and you learn; people have ALOT going on in life and don't always do what they should or what is right. We all just have to trust that God will convict people and maybe one day, when you don't even expect it OR God will give you an unexpected financial blessing through the hands of someone else. Take it from someone who knows!
2006-11-22 05:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Albritton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would mention it again and ask her when she can have the money back to you. If you do not receive anything I would take her to court. I completely understand your struggle. Last year my family and some friends went out of town for Christmas. I booked the condo we stayed in for the trip with an agreement from everyone that we would split the cost by the number of people staying in the condo and each family would reimburse me. There were 13 people including myself and I only received reimbursement for 8 of the 12 other people. The other family of four did not pay me back and everytime I have seen them since makes no mention of when they are going to reimburse me. I would definitely sever the friendship as it is a total lack of respect. Good Luck!
2006-11-22 06:08:12 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i be attentive to precisely the form you experience. I genuinely hate it while human beings do this! I certainly have had comparable stories. i think of explanation why he would not pay you back is via the fact he's only being selfish and it extremely is problematical to talk experience into human beings like that. sure you're precise, he could've payed back with the 1st money that he have been given rather of determining to purchase for snacks. it form of feels you have already executed extremely plenty to attempt to get him to pay back, so at this element the final element to do is to take a seat down him down someplace and communicate over with him. Ask him in the present day out, why he's no longer paying the a reimbursement. tell him he could have given the 1st money he ever have been given to you, and devise a plan which will make you happy. He surely isn't forgetting to pay you back! He only needs to apply it himself. you should grant him an ultimatum. keep in mind, do never experience undesirable asking him for the money, because of the fact it is your precise to ask and insist it. i'm hoping that this works. :)
2016-11-26 01:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by faccone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much do you treasure your frinedship? Sometimes we just have to overlook their borrowing money from us when we know it will be completely inpossible for them to return the money. You need to heart to heart talk to your friend and find how she valued your friendship too. And you know that you can't just to lend money to her and knowing she may not able to return the favor!
For medical, you can write it off for taxes if she sign the reciepts and documents that medical expenses in her care was necessary! But today, how many friends can we really count on our hands, maybe a few. It is possibe that you can forgive not forget and never bring it up to her in arguments, due to that she is illed and never able to pay it off? Don't just rescue her at everytime either, she needs to know that you are not to support her in money, but emotional you can. Think about, and take care
2006-11-22 06:08:37 · answer #4 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look take her to small claims court. Hopefully this can be settled without a lot of hard feelings. In the future a word to the wise, never loan money to family or friends. Take this advice and you will be ok.
2006-11-22 05:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this was a friend ,they should know to give the money back,, if your good enough to give they should be good enough to give it back
2006-11-22 06:06:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋