What do you think? If a person cheerfully and willingly does something to help another and finds some kind of personal satisfaction in it are they more caring than a person who begrudgingly performs an action in behalf of another? Does sacrificing time and/or resources indicate a greater level of caring than just offering time, kindness and service?
There is a debate raging in our household regarding this topic. Neutral parties' opinions are greatly appreciated.
2006-11-22 05:31:45 · 8 answers · asked by oldyogi 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
They are equal if they are equal in results. The person who cheerfully does it gets more personal satisfaction from a job well done, but the person who has to take the time out of their schedule to get something done that has to be done should also be recognized. It is not easy to put your personal life on hold for another, but it is necessary sometimes.
The person who is sacrificing for the good of another should remember that it won't always be necessary and put a good face on it.
2006-11-22 05:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by loryntoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the recipient is made to feel the burden of the giver's 'sacrifice' then a price has been extracted (guilt, feelings of worthlessness and of being a weight upon those called on for help) and it is no 'gift' of love or anything else... but a service grudgingly provided.
Better for the one in need to hire or otherwise arrange for an honest exchange than to be subjected to this sort of emotional blackmail.
Willing help is a gift given by the one providing it. There can be many reasons for being willing to help, such as the act making one feel better about oneself, that have little to do with actually caring for the recipient.
A Duty performed with willingness and good cheer, regardless of whether it causes the need for sacrifice from the giver, is an act of unconditional love and maturity. This is the kind of action that polishes the development of spiritual growth.
2006-11-22 17:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by toastposties 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would absolutely think that the person who cheerfully and willingly does something and finds personal satisfaction from it demonstrates a greater level of caring hands down!
Of course it does........any person who begrudgingly helps someone would not be considered a caring person at all.
2006-11-22 13:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by jazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ends do not justify the means when it comes to emotion. If a person does something out of the kindness of their heart and gets personal satisfaction out of it that effort will show to others. The deed will be done well and the person receiving the kindness will be very happy.
On the other hand, if someone does something nice for another person out of duty, that person will feel owed something in return. The person who received the kindness will feel that debt and either try to repay it or will avoid the other person. The other issue here is that the kind deed will not be done very well. Only enough will be done for the effort to be shown.
The best deeds are done willingly and lovingly. Not half as much value comes out of doing something out of duty as out of kindness. The person doing something out of kindness is much more caring than the person that does something out of duty.
Take care,
Troy
2006-11-22 13:57:39 · answer #4 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the individual circumstance. I take care of my 87 year old grandmother because no one else has time for her. Don't get me wrong, I love her, and would never abandon her and always try to do my very best to meet her needs and be there for her. But I am constantly comprimising my own happiness for her comfort and/or needs. But in my eyes, she is old and needs me, so I want the best for her. My relatives think if they show up of call occasionally it is good enough. If they can live with their actions, so be it, personally, I would feel terrible if I
didn't take on the responsibility.
2006-11-22 13:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
each of us are individuals and naturally have our own unique way of expressing and receiving love. we are the same in that we want to express it and receive it, but the nature of giving and receiving is individual... example: i tend to think people love me more, care more when they help me with chores that are hard for me to do, or mundane or down right nasty. when they lend a helping hand, it makes me feel like they care. on the other hand, my husband would rather receive love/caring through more physical means, touching, feeling, etc..... my daughter would rather receive love/caring through gifts....so, it doesn't really matter in the long run, how it is given or received, just so that you are aware of each others preferences makes it much easier to avoid confrontation. honesty is the best policy.
2006-11-22 13:46:09 · answer #6 · answered by iwondersoiask 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as what needs to get done gets done, that's what matters. UNLESS someone belittles another for the deed they've done, but that's bad karma, which i sincerely believe will come back and bite that person in the a**.
2006-11-22 15:43:31 · answer #7 · answered by robinskylynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Caring hands down.
If something is done out of duty only, it breeds resentment.
2006-11-23 12:20:50 · answer #8 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋