My husband had to go to Guatemala on August 12,2006 for his immigration papers. He has never cheated on me before but I am wondering if he will. He should be back by the middle of march. We talk on the phone everyday-sometimes twice a day and send letters back and forth as well. We also have a 8 month old daughter together. We will be married for two years December 4. but it still leaves me with the question of Will he cheat on me? Any advice on how to get over this feeling? I tried coming out straight to ask him and he said I just need to trust him and if I keep nagging him about it he will, but that was two months ago and I havent asked him about it since. Like I said I do talk to him everyday and he always answers his phone for me.
2006-11-22 05:25:24 · 23 answers · asked by alexnjennlexychajon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Probably...and hookers are really cheap there! lol No...I'm kidding...Girl..calm down! As long as he is keeping the lines of communication open....I wouldn't worry!
2006-11-22 05:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to just chill and concentrate on keeping your family together. The fact is some men will & do cheat when they have the chance too, but not all of them. The main issue would be is if their cheating will come to light any time there after to huant them. As long as men love their suffigant others and do not totally disrespect them in their discression, things should work out for them. You could actually loose your mind over something you can't control or actually know the truth about, so let it go.
2006-11-22 05:42:22 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important facets of a marriage are Trust and Communication. You obviously have half of the communication part down, its the listening and hearing part your having a problem with.
The Trust issue is very important, if you don't trust each other your marriage will never work.
He has told you he is not cheating listen to him and trust that he is telling you the truth, if you don't trust each other it will destroy any relationship.
If you have problems with trust issues go seek professional help before you destroy a good thing and don't keep asking him if he is cheating otherwise he will feel that you don't trust him and that may drive him to do it.
If you thought enough of him to have a baby you should also think enough of him to trust him.
Good Luck from a long time married woman who trusts her husband who travels allot totally!
2006-11-22 06:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the bigger question here is, what if he does, how would you ever know for sure? And if for some reason you found out he did? What are you going to do about it? When you get through all of those thoughts... you come back to the beginning, and wish that you'd never even wondered... Because you can't change it anyway... but if you doubt him, and he knows that? Now he's wondering about your faithfulness...
Been there. Done it... No fun...
2006-11-22 06:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by Topher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that women who are paranoid about cheating, cheat! So the only reason you'll be paranoid is if you're cheating, maybe you should take an inside look.
Also, three months is a long time to go without sex. I'm not sure how often he likes it but if I was gone that long I might not be able to contain myself. I hope he's repulsive.
2006-11-22 05:49:52 · answer #5 · answered by Cabbage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you fear most will happen by the way you are acting. Is not like he could help that he had to go back there.
Let the man do his bussiness so he can return and be with you, or keep on nagging the crap out of him and falsely acusse him of cheating and hunt him down like a scarred rabbit... until he gets sick of you and your nagging mouth.
2006-11-22 05:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just trust him? You married him - you made a commitment to him as he did to you. There is no reason for him to cheat and he has not done so in the past...just be confident in your relationship and hang in there. You'll feel better when he's back with you come March.
2006-11-22 05:33:06 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your husband but I heard that Guatemalan woman are skanky and toothless so unless he likes 'em like that I think you are safe. Seriously though, the best thing to do is put it out of your mind and think of other things. Like how much you love him. You will drive yourself mad because there really is no way to know what he is doing when you aren't around. Try to find peace with that fact. All any of us can do is trust that our significant others are doing the right thing. It is out of your control.
2006-11-22 05:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are married to him then you should trust him. Especially if he tells you not to worry about him doing that...if he loves you he won't. Plus, you have a family together, why would he want to cheat on you?
2006-11-22 05:45:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is wondering the same about you. If you want to keep him interested in you, have some good 'ol fashioned phone sex. Why haven't you gone to visit him? If you can, visit him and give him the time of his life, and show him you still want him. Send him some nude pics of you, so that he will have something to think about and relieve himself. :)
2006-11-22 05:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by metallicachic82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a serious problem. If you were my wife I just may not come back knowing that I'd have to deal with your insecurities and lack of faith in me. Especially if I've never given you any cause for concern.
My suggestion....Zoloft
2006-11-22 05:34:19 · answer #11 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋