Can 2 women ever have a good relationship? We fight about everything! Is it because we are women or just too different people? We are both bi, and I have had very successful relationships with men, but never with women. She has never had a good relationship with anyone. Please help, I love her to death
2006-11-22 05:23:41 · 16 answers · asked by T C 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Two women can have a very fulfilling relationship. My partner and I have been together for 26 years. It takes alot of work and if I can give you any advice, it's all about trust and communication. I was bi when we first started, she true lesbian. Women have the ability to compromise alot more than men do, I believe. You two have to find the right combination. Chores a problem? Money? Write everything down in a note book, talk together on who does what, keep to a schedule and reward yourselves when it's accomplished. My partner hated certain household things but since I did most of the yard work she had to contribute in that way. We only knew that we could not go out to that movie or concert until things were taken care of. Money? Pick the best person to give the responsibility of paying the bills/watching the checkbook. Or if you keep things separate, and that's okay, still assign one of you to make certain the bills get paid in a timely fashion. Start slow, be persistent and take the extra effort to talk things out until you compromise. True love finds ways to work things out, but you gotta put some work into it too. Eventually things will fall into place. New things will change stuff, like new jobs, houses, friends, but as long as you well talk out any new change that comes along you'll be on the road to a great long term relationship. Good luck.
2006-11-22 08:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by truckinotter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course women can. like any relationship, it takes work and communication. if she's never had a good relationship with anyone, then she must have some serious issues. if you aren't too good with women, you have to take a look at yourself and see how you are contributing to the problem, even if it's just a matter of bad taste in women. you have to talk openly an honestly. it's the only way relationships stay strong.
2006-11-22 06:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Couples counseling..... you both need to learn how to communicate with each other. You probably are two totally different people but isn't everyone... The art of learning how to respect on anther in arguments would help tremendously. Calm down don't escalate an argument, shut up and listen. Maybe she will do the same for you.... Everyone views things differently and if you are both moving toward the same goal, your fighting and wasting energy... But you both need to want to make it work. Its a choice, when you or she is bug-ed about something, Stop and write it down. Let her answer by writing it down too.. Rules you are not allowed to call each other names .
IF what you are doing doesn't work for the both of you then you need to change it up.... Stop the madness..... Change the pattern.
2006-11-22 05:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel what you are saying. It's hard, I don't know if the causes are that you are both bi, but because you are just two different people and that is when you have to put in! A relationship is based on love, trust, commitment and if you cant commit to one another, then it sounds like it will not work out.
2006-11-22 05:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by Rainbow Brite 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
2 women can have a good relationship just depends who the people are, maybe you just need to work at it. But if she's never had a good relationship don't get your hopes up too much.
2006-11-22 05:43:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that depends on a lot of factors. It depends on what youre fighting about. Is it major stuff like your values or is it something stupid? If you find yourself fighting over major issues, you may not be right for each other. If you are fighting over stupid things, it may be salvageable. Try not to look at things like history, people can change, so give her a chance. I would really think about what it is that you are disagreeing about so often and then go from there!! I wish you luck! It sounds like you love her greatly....
2006-11-22 05:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by U2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cannot give a definitive "how to" re[ply because all our lives vary. If it is any comfort, Gwenneth and I were together for 42 years until her death.
We shared interests in music, gardening, sense of humor and related issues, worked at the same office and purchased our home. We were accepted by my family and totally rejected by hers. She was brought up in their peculiar sect and could face them down if necessary. All I could do was offer support and love. The pain of her death, her family's treatment of her remains and my recovery has eased.
I wish you both the best in life, certainly all the good that my beloved and I shared
Kind regards, Rose P.
2006-11-22 13:43:56 · answer #7 · answered by rose p 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 women can get long.
I'm bi and my girl is lez , the thing I've learned that helps us out best is no bs or head games. I don't walk on egg shells around her ,not afraid to speak my mind.I don't do things to get back at her and I don't lie.
When we are pissed ,we take second to chill then talk about it .
Believe me it works lot better then screaming !
Good luck!
2006-11-22 05:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by free_style_forever 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you keep each other in the dark about things even little things you will fight. Just cuz you fight does not mean you don't care bout each other. You have to be open and honest about everything. Also, try to have your own seperate set of friends.
2006-11-22 05:47:12 · answer #9 · answered by Namaste 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After those first two insightfull answers!
Yes there can I have been with my partner for 6 years not and we are happy. We found the trick is to let each other know when something is bothering us and not to let it fester and blow up out of all proportion
Hope that helps
2006-11-22 05:31:07 · answer #10 · answered by nevergrowup 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋