How did you come out?

Question

I would love to hear how it was done, and what the results were. No rude answers please. If the question does not apply, do not answer. Thanks!

Answer 1

I was 14 when I came out, in high school. I knew my family would be accepting, so it was easy for me to just come to them and tell them with out much fanfare. The discussion was about how I would cope with the outside world that might be hostile and how to take care of myself.

Everyone else was told on a need to know basis. Just those I was close to or good friends with.

I realize my experience is an exception, most folks have it much harder than I do. So yes i count my blessings, not just tomorrow, but everyday.

Answer 2

Coming out is always a very difficult issue. It took me over 30 years to do so and during that time I lived a double life but eventually I decided I could not live like that anymore and decided to do something about it. I didn't make a big song a dance about it but instead just stopped hiding the fact that I had a boyfriend and people began to realise I was gay. My colleagues at work were all very supportive and never made a big issue about it. I only had one person who could not cope with it but that was his problem and not mine. Both my parents were dead by the time I came out but I think my Dad would have been okay. Not sure about how my mother would have taken it. The only member of the family who cannot cope with it is my brother but since we don't speak to each other it doesn't matter.

Answer 3

I have kept my feelings in for 20+ years and could no longer hide them. I recently told my wife that I was gay and I was extremely attracted to men. She was hurt as well as my 2 children. I love my family but I am not satisified. I have been with several men within 2 weeks. I am planning on telling the rest of my family at Thanksgiving. Good luck.

Answer 4

In the car.

Seriously. I had told my mother that I needed to talk to her about something important, and the whole way home from the airport she was completely freaking out over what it could be. Half way home I couldn't take it anymore and just told her. She almost ran us off the road. Once she got back her lane she asked, "Is that all?" This is not a method I recommend. No one should be operating heavy machinery during the conversation.

Answer 5

The only person I came out to was my husband. I came out to him in 2001.
I was still scared even though I knew he is open-minded regarding homosexuals and lesbians. I was unsure how he would react to me being bisexual.
I just started by asking him what he thought about bisexuals. From there he pretty much guessed at where I was headed. He has accepted it and we're still together. We have been married for eleven years now.

I still haven't come out to my family. My mother may be understanding since she had a gay distant cousin. But, I'm still not sure; her being in her 80's and all. My father is dead. I'm not sure whether to tell my brother or not.

Answer 6

The first family member I told in person was my Mom in the middle of a Burger King...

I was raised in a conservative family and couldn't accept that I was gay because I believed in all the stereotypes and since the stereotypes didn't fit me I didn't think I was gay. When I was 27 I realized that I couldn't hold it in any longer and went on a few dates with guys I had contacted through an alternative newspaper personals section. I had a gay friend who lived in another state, and he came into town and I told him, so he took me out to my first gay bar. I called my sister who lived out of town, and told her after I swore her to secrecy.
One day, my parents wanted to meet me for lunch and we met a a Burger King. After lunch while my Dad went to get the car, my Mom said she could tell something was on my mind. She asked if it a relationship thing, and I said it kind of was. She asked me if it was this girl I used to live with, and I told her no. Then she asked if it was my gay friend who lived out of town, which surprised me. I told her she was getting warmer, and then just said "I'm gay." She got this funny look on her face and said she had thought I was since I was 4 years old but since I had never dated a guy she thought she was wrong. She told me to not tell my Dad because she didn't know how he would take it. That night, she called to tell me that SHE had told my Dad and that he was OK with it. I've been out to everyone ever since and have never looked back.

Answer 7

I never had to tell anyone. For example, my folks TOLD ME & ACCUSED ME of being a f-a-g-. they observed that I didn't lust after girls. they were right.


The guys in school assumed anyone who was not a jock like them was AUTOMATICALLY a queer. If you didn't curse like them ,dress like them, drink booze and talk sports, if you were too quiet or reserved - then you were a queer. I f you didn't discuss p-u-s-s-y round the clock - then you were some kind of queer or f-a-g.. Even the most stupid retarded guys were able to realize who was straight and who was queer.

So I never had to tell no one and no one believed me if I denied it.
Yet I walked and talked very ordinary, no swishing, no effiminate mannerisms, yet this was not enough. somehow, the straight guys instinctively KNOW and they always are right. My parents too. They TOLD ME - not that I told them anything.

so I never had to come out to anyone at all. and that's that.

Answer 8

my mum caught me and my ex-girlfriend kissing in my bedroom. We didnt hear her come in because we had music on and she just walked in asking us to turn it down then her face dropped and she still hasn't forgiven me, shes homophobic.

Answer 9

I was having sex with my friends father my friend walked in and said wow,looks fun can I join? She did and we all had a blast. Then after words I told my mom I was bi.

Answer 10

i did'nt have to i was born and i was out.
before the 3rd grade they knew.