2006-11-22 05:18:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There is such a thing as being to close to a problem. Sometimes it's just easier to see what's "wrong" with someone else rather than yourself. That's why people have to be reminded to start with themselves (there's the old saying, before you try to remove a speck from someone else's eye, remove the plank from your own!).
There is also the concept of a comfort zone. Most folks would really rather move other people into their comfort zones rather than move themselves out. That's why self-change takes courage and disipline.
2006-11-22 05:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by Elise K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like most of the answers id say it's because it's easier to look at other peoples faults rather than inward at you own. It is hard for most people to see whats wrong with themselves rather than what's wrong with others. Also power can be a reason. In relationships some people need to feel like they have the upper hand, and to do that they point out flaws in the other person.
2006-11-22 06:43:51 · answer #2 · answered by hydro in va 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..
If someone's expecting change to get along than maybe you should ask them to change too.
However..That is a problem most people face trying to change other people. If you can't get along without changing and don't want to change than quit holding onto the relationship and learn the hard way.
2006-11-22 05:22:00 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two reasons:
1. People don't know what they don't know. e.g. It never occurs to some people that they can change rather than the other person.
2. People have fear. They hold on to what they know and have rather than go where situations are unfamiliar and therefore uncomfortable.
Peace, out.
2006-11-22 05:58:02 · answer #4 · answered by Bullwinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is easier to find fault with others than with one's self. People don't realise that if they want people to change, they should first change themselves.
2006-11-22 05:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are comfortable about the way they are or maybe see no reason to change themselves (they see no fault). It seems easier for them to "try" to change others, although you usually can't.
2006-11-22 05:46:42 · answer #6 · answered by Ha Ha Charade You Are................... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always much easier to see the faults in others. To change others only works if they want to change. The changes truly only work if the person STAYS changed on their own for years. It depends on the habit or behavior. I was always told "the faults you see in others are those you don't want to see in yourself" liz
2006-11-22 06:34:25 · answer #7 · answered by liz l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time for us to realize the wisdom that we can only change ourselves and our own reactions, and not those of others. We usually have to go through it many times before it finally hits us.
2006-11-22 06:20:50 · answer #8 · answered by Dust in the Wind 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur the type of a guy who becomes a friend and the ones who give advice makes friends as per their own accord,they give advice since they like to assume the premeditated.For you to be more persceptive of other peoples thoughts, you need patience and pity.
2006-11-24 20:37:52 · answer #9 · answered by cannystonehenry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it seems easier, and most people don't believe they NEED to change.
2006-11-22 05:22:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋